Rijjer

I've been busy with school & work, and haven't seen my bf in a few days. He called to say he's on his way over, then asked if he had any rum in the fridge.
I asked if he was going to spend the night drinking, and he said, no just a couple.

I'm anticipating a sad night, and I'm already in a bad mood. How do I set a boundary, without starting a fight? How to I say - please don't get drunk - when he starts pouring that first drink?

I just know he's spent the last two nights drunk, and I can't believe he wants to waste a night with me, getting drunk again.
I can feel the end coming, and it's devastating.

dollydo

Tell him that your boundery is that you will not see him if he is drinking. Don't give him a drink, it is your house, not his.

Sounds like he is out of money and needs some free drinks, he is coming over to visit the bottle, not you.

Rijjer

Oh, the rum is his, he brought it over a while ago.
But I told him last weekend how his drinking affected me. And clearly he doesn't see it as that serious of an issue. He thinks he can have "a couple", when I know that 5 or 6 triple 151 proof rum & cokes are not "a couple".

dollydo

Hand him the bottle and let him go on his way. Bounderies are set to protect you, if you are
uncomfortable with his drinking, set your boundery and stick to it.

Pelican

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I agree with the above poster. Hand him the bottle and tell him to take his drink elsewhere.