cr995

I have been doing so well these last few days but today I had an email which was ok - just a friend who lives near my AH letting me know that things are not going well for STBXAH and his gf who had moved in to my house with his mother.( I say my house because I paid for it even though he says it's our house.) Anyway apparently 'mother' has told gf to leave and she is gone. However my problem is that even though I realize this situation is nothing to do with me anymore i am feeling anxious and upset . like back to the old days.
I have sorted it out in my head but my heart keeps pounding. why is this happening?

Confetti

It's getting sucked back into their vortex.

I have this happen whenever I discuss him with anyone close to him/us. I can discuss the situation with my girlfriends and it isn't the same feeling. However, when I discuss him with his friends or our mutual friends, I usually hear about what they have heard or how they (like me) cant understand what the hell he's done. I always find myself somewhat upset afterward.

Stay strong, sending you good vibes.

Freedom1990

I make it crystal clear to friends when there are certain people I do not want to hear about in any way, shape, or form.

FireSprite

It sounds a lot like PTSD.

Milly39

Your friend is doing you no favours telling you things that are no longer your concern...I would ask her to stop doing this as it is causing you anxiety.
Look after yourself and stay strong