intervention

Old 11-05-2012, 09:06 AM
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intervention

anyone tried one? anyone had one work?
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Old 11-05-2012, 09:37 AM
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sorry no experience here - hope someone else can help
Good luck with it
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Old 11-05-2012, 10:34 AM
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Yes, it didn't work. It was me and some family members, but our boundaries were so weak that when AH insisted he wasn't drinking we all said okay and slinked off like we'd violated him.

Of course he was drinking.

The thing about interventions as I understand it is that they are designed to "bring the bottom up" -- i.e. to hasten the addict's fall by yanking the rug of support out -- so the friends and family have to be willing to stick to their guns and be willing to walk away from the addict if they refuse treatment.

We weren't ready for that. At that point none of us knew how bad it actually was, and his alcoholism was very much advanced. We still thought we could ***help*** him achieve sobriety and that our love and well wishes would lift him up. We could not.
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Old 11-05-2012, 11:09 AM
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There are a lot of threads on interventions. Just do a search and you'll find them all. Results, and opinions, regarding interventions vary widely here, as do the definitions around what constitutes "working."

I did one on my wife because I thought I was qualified to plan an intervention because I'm not an alcoholic (and didn't think anything was wrong with me-- just her). The hubris of that version of me was mind boggling.

Through one filter it was a disaster, though I was able to force her into a recovery center by threatening to divorce her. Through another filter it was the first step towards her finding recovery several years later using some of the tools she learned there, and for me finding Alanon (thank God). I'd do it again, but I'd do it again with the assistance and guidance of a professional interventionist (money be damned).

My two cents. Your results may vary.

Cyranoak

P.s. She also learned, in recovery, new ways to hide her drinking and the proper things to say to doctors and loved ones so it sounds like they are getting better. Already an excellent liar and manipulator, she got even better.
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