Lies and contradictions
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Lies and contradictions
So the XABY tells me "he is not an alcoholic" just someone who likes to drink vodka after work to unwind.
Wrong. His family even say he's an alcoholic. If he wasn't why would he shake, sweat & have major effects when he stops drinking.
He tells me he is no longer binge drinking. Wrong, 2 parties out of town, oh maybe no binging for 1 week lol.
He tells me he is in a better place now cause he's cut down.
Wrong. 2 weeks ago he told me he was outa control with his drinking & it would put him in an early grave & he'd prob die if he tried to give up.
He has cut down or hang on, he is going to try to cut down soon, which is it?
Wrong.
He was binge drinking cause he lost his license & poor him had to walk to work.
Wrong.
He got his license back & 1 week later he turns up drunk at 10.30am in his ute. Oh and spent all weekend binging & not coming around when he said he would.
Unbelievable.
And the whole relationship breakup?
It failed because of eveything & anything apart from the drinking!
Wrong, contradictions & lies.
Crikey, I see the truth here, but he sees everything but.
Wrong. His family even say he's an alcoholic. If he wasn't why would he shake, sweat & have major effects when he stops drinking.
He tells me he is no longer binge drinking. Wrong, 2 parties out of town, oh maybe no binging for 1 week lol.
He tells me he is in a better place now cause he's cut down.
Wrong. 2 weeks ago he told me he was outa control with his drinking & it would put him in an early grave & he'd prob die if he tried to give up.
He has cut down or hang on, he is going to try to cut down soon, which is it?
Wrong.
He was binge drinking cause he lost his license & poor him had to walk to work.
Wrong.
He got his license back & 1 week later he turns up drunk at 10.30am in his ute. Oh and spent all weekend binging & not coming around when he said he would.
Unbelievable.
And the whole relationship breakup?
It failed because of eveything & anything apart from the drinking!
Wrong, contradictions & lies.
Crikey, I see the truth here, but he sees everything but.
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Sad isn't it! Makes you want to bang your head but the smart thing to do is run! You can't reason and even try to understand the Active A way if thinking. Someone very wise told me that long ago! I wish I had listened after years of banging my head!
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It sounds to me that mostly likely he is in denial. So of course it would be easier to blame everything else (especially you) for the demise of the relationship. Otherwise he would have to accept responsibility for his behavior and actually do something about it.
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