Lab

Tonight the ex is taking the kids. I usually open that first bottle wine as soon as they leave. I'm afraid of being bored and lonely. I will be on here a lot this evening trying to fill this void :-(

least

This is a good place to come to distract yourself from the urge to drink.

bluegem

Can you arrange for a friend to come over and keep you company?

Or maybe look up a recipe to cook something, the more complicated the better, might keep your mind off the wine...

are you into arts and crafts? or do you have any hobbies?

goodluck... i'm sure you will get lots of support on here... and after this first night is over it will get easier as you then know you can get through it without alcohol..

Dee74

stick close Lab - you can do this

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Lab

Thanks all....knowing you are here helps so much! I decided to focus on my studying tonight. I've let that slip the last several months and been drinking in my free time instead of using it productively.

Needsassistance

Lab, you can do this. I've had similar hurdles recently and coming here has been very helpful. I'm now almost 90 days sober, I was a horrible binge drinker. Historically when my wife wasn't home, too would get lovenly and bored and use these nights as drinking opportunities. Ashe needs to travel from time to time for work, I need to learn how t be alone constructively. I've found that being aware of the risks of these nights has been a big start. I then go and literally abuse myself at the gym, come home clean up, make some dinner, watchtower and chat here has been a pretty darn health way to get throug these nights. After a heavy workout, booze is the last thing I crave to put in my body.

Wolfram

Hang in there. It might be hard. And whatever you do, dont feel ashame of yourself.

We all know how hard it is.

hypochondriac

Good luck for tonight Lab x Stay close to SR and let us know how you get on x

BigTeddy

Good luck tonight!

FreeFall

Lab, try to use the free time as an opportunity to concentrate on your needs. Studying, maybe pamper yourself a little-hot bath, paint your nails, something to make you feel good. Chocolate...I'm sure while raising kids you don't have a lot of private time, so enjoy it

Black

Good luck Lab keep busy at all cost tonight.

Dee74

how are you going Lab?

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Hevyn

Hey Lab. Every time we get over one of these hurdles we grow stronger. Reading and posting here will help relieve the anxiety you're feeling. One thing's for sure - there's no comfort or relief in drinking to numb ourselves. We know you can make it through this challenge.

freshstart57

I know you can do what is necessary to achieve your goal tonight, Lab. Our chat lines are open, operators are standing by....

Lab

Thanks everyone! I'm doing great tonight. The ex decided not to take the kids, so we are having a movie night. It's odd, normally I would have been pissed that he didn't take the kids, but I'm relieved to have them home with me. Must stay strong Saturday night....that's the next day he will have them.

Delilah1

You were ready for tonight, you can get through Saturday. I will probably be on here with you Saturday night. Try to do something for you.

Pondlady

Lab,
You've got a few days to plan on something for Saturday. Think of something you'd enjoy - keep posting!

Delilah1

I know this was going to be a challenging day for you, how is it going?

Stewart888

Lab, we are with you buddy...remember this

You never get enough of what you don't want......read it and think about it...

Positivefuture

Stay on here as long as you need. Know you are not alone and you have support from folks that understand. Tomorrow when you wake up you will not have a hang over and a broken mind. Keep up the good work!!!