My Mom passed away
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My Mom passed away
after a long battle with breast cancer.
I am so effing sad. I knew it was going to happen, but it is hitting me like a ton of bricks.
I had a dream about her last night and I woke up at 5 a.m. crying. I hate showing emotions and they are just pouring out like rain.
I am not going to drink. She was proud of me for being sober and that is no way to cope with this. I think I would have a nervous breakdown.
I am so effing sad. I knew it was going to happen, but it is hitting me like a ton of bricks.
I had a dream about her last night and I woke up at 5 a.m. crying. I hate showing emotions and they are just pouring out like rain.
I am not going to drink. She was proud of me for being sober and that is no way to cope with this. I think I would have a nervous breakdown.
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Hello Elizabeth,
Sorry about your mum. I think we're allowed to be emotional after someone close passes away.
One thing at a time , one moment at a time is the only way i've got through in the past.
Today you are my hero for being so strong and deciding not to drink , thank you, M
Sorry about your mum. I think we're allowed to be emotional after someone close passes away.
One thing at a time , one moment at a time is the only way i've got through in the past.
Today you are my hero for being so strong and deciding not to drink , thank you, M
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I'm so sorry for your loss Elisabeth888......Maybe it's better the fighting it is over....And I'm sure not drinking would be what she'd want. Sending you prayers for strength and peace Elisabeth888...Take care of yourself and stay close to family and friends.
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Thanks everyone for your thoughts!
I am going to a meeting today. She just passed last night.
I am not sure I can share about it, but being there is going to help. She was proud of me for going to AA.
I am going to a meeting today. She just passed last night.
I am not sure I can share about it, but being there is going to help. She was proud of me for going to AA.
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Elisabeth888,
I am so sorry about your mum. I am not sure that"knowing" it is going to happen helps us to prepare. Watching a loved one go through a long illness is very emotional and stressful. Your sadness is overwhelming - at best- but you are doing it sober and I for one, really look up to you. again, I am so sorry.
Hugs, ash
I am so sorry about your mum. I am not sure that"knowing" it is going to happen helps us to prepare. Watching a loved one go through a long illness is very emotional and stressful. Your sadness is overwhelming - at best- but you are doing it sober and I for one, really look up to you. again, I am so sorry.
Hugs, ash
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I'm so sorry, Elisabeth. That is so sad. My mother had breast cancer from the time I was four until she passed away 23 years later. I HATE cancer! As you do with with your recovery,take your loss one day at a time. It took me a full year to get through it. All the major "firsts" .... Christmas, birthdays, Mother's Day, graduations, etc. It is so hard, but you are a very strong person. I can tell. We are here for you. Keep coming back.
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I am really sorry for your loss.
May your mum rest in peace after her courageous battle.
My beloved auntie passed coming up for two years ago in December.
I miss her immensly.
She was the most humble, loving woman.
I still try my hardest as I feel she is watching me and I want her to be proud.
xxxx
May your mum rest in peace after her courageous battle.
My beloved auntie passed coming up for two years ago in December.
I miss her immensly.
She was the most humble, loving woman.
I still try my hardest as I feel she is watching me and I want her to be proud.
xxxx
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I feel so bad for you. I lost my stepfather to cancer in 2005, and it was the hardest thing I've ever gone through. Be proud that she passed while you were sober, I'm sure she was proud. God Bless
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I am so very sorry. You will always miss her, and the grief is so painful to go through. It does get better with time, although it will never go away - I guess you just learn to live with it. Bless you.
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I'm sorry to hear about you loss Elisabeth. Something similar happened to me. With only 6 months sober my mother died and my entire alcoholic and dysfunctional family came together. I had all I could do to not drink around those people but I did it. Please stay strong and remember the good times.
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