lysa

I am involved with a man , who has told me he is an alcoholic. He is also in recovery, what have I got myself into, and what is the reality of dating a man with a drink problem.
Would appreciate any replies
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lysa

justhadenough

I think it depends on how long he has been in recovery. If he has been sober many years and established in his recovery then it probably won't impact on your relationship,other than not drinking. If he is newly sober though he will probably be vulnerable and be concentratinghis resources on his recovery.

AlcoholicLove

I suggest you go and read the stories in the Family/Friends section...

onlythetruth

People with drink problems aren't all the same, so there is no universal reality. But it's safe to say, I think, that someone who quit drinking last week or last month is going to be less stable than someone who quit drinking a long time ago. As with any relationship, the key is to take your time and get to know him.

Huey

'Long term' recovery doesn't always equate to greater emotional stability or 'wellness', i've known people with years of AA Recovery who are as crazy as a box of rabid Ferrets. I'd take it day by day and see how it goes.
I've been totally abstinent for 8 month, and my girlfriend reckons i'm crazier now than when I was drinking, but now it's nice crazy

ACT10Npack

How often does he relapse?

parkec100

I would run.

As someone who drank, if not not drank for 35+ years.. My advice - find someone less broken. Unless they have been sober for a decade or so... and then only if they deserve your love and attention.

In my opinion if after the decade of so they still speak often of recovery, or their love affair with alcohol...run.