My eyes and ears are now more open to abuse and addiction.
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My eyes and ears are now more open to abuse and addiction.
I noticed yesterday that simply from coming here to SR every day and reading and learning I am more open to noticing (or thinking I notice) what's going on around me as it relates to addiction and abuse.
For example, I was in the supermarket yesterday and there was a young family just ahead of me. The father was pushing the cart. He looked hung-over and bleary eyed. He was leaning on the cart as if he needed it to support himself. The mother had a list and was busy checking prices, supervising the bored children etc. Dad just leant on the cart and pushed it.
At one stage I saw him toss something in the cart. One of the kids, about 6 years old, attempted to make a joke and said:
Hey! You didn't ask if you could put that in the cart!"
Dad angrily replied:
"I f@#$in' work and get the money I can do whatever the **** I want."
The mother saw that I was right next to them when the father said that.
Later on I caught her eye and she looked at me sadly. I wanted to grab her and tell her that I knew how she felt and what I thought she was going through and that I'd kicked my AXH out for similar behaviour. I didn't of course, it would have caused a scene.
When the father spoke like he did to the small child I felt afraid, again.
That poor woman. I used to be her.
For example, I was in the supermarket yesterday and there was a young family just ahead of me. The father was pushing the cart. He looked hung-over and bleary eyed. He was leaning on the cart as if he needed it to support himself. The mother had a list and was busy checking prices, supervising the bored children etc. Dad just leant on the cart and pushed it.
At one stage I saw him toss something in the cart. One of the kids, about 6 years old, attempted to make a joke and said:
Hey! You didn't ask if you could put that in the cart!"
Dad angrily replied:
"I f@#$in' work and get the money I can do whatever the **** I want."
The mother saw that I was right next to them when the father said that.
Later on I caught her eye and she looked at me sadly. I wanted to grab her and tell her that I knew how she felt and what I thought she was going through and that I'd kicked my AXH out for similar behaviour. I didn't of course, it would have caused a scene.
When the father spoke like he did to the small child I felt afraid, again.
That poor woman. I used to be her.
I'm no angel!
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The transformation of our minds and emotions can indeed make a difference,
Codependency, to me, is a sickness in itself and now that I am more healthy I am more aware of how it affects our daily life.
Sounds like you are on a path to healing!
Codependency, to me, is a sickness in itself and now that I am more healthy I am more aware of how it affects our daily life.
Sounds like you are on a path to healing!
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Join Date: Mar 2012
Posts: 319
I agree. I find I notice certain behaviors much more than I ever used to.
Now, I need to work on not analyzing everyone I know and refrain from offering them my advice because I now know everything! lol
Geez, where one codie behavior ends, another begins!
Now, I need to work on not analyzing everyone I know and refrain from offering them my advice because I now know everything! lol
Geez, where one codie behavior ends, another begins!
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