What's Good for Me?..Language of Letting Go
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What's Good for Me?..Language of Letting Go
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go
What's Good for Me?
When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is this what I really want?... Is this what I need?...Does this direction feel right for me?...or am I succumbing to the control and influence that I sometimes allow others to have over me?
It is not unhealthy selfishness to question if something is good for us. That is an old way of thinking. To ask if something is good for us is a healthy behavior, not to be ashamed of, and will probably work out in the other person's best interests too.
We shall not wander down a selfish path of self-indulgence by asking if a thing is good for us. We shall not stray from God's intended plan, God's highest good, by asking if a thing is good for us. By asking ourselves this simple question, we participate in directing our life toward the highest good and purpose; we own our power to hold ourselves in self-esteem.
Today, I will begin acting in my best interests. I will do this with the understanding that, on occasion, my choices will not please everyone around me. I will do this with the understanding that asking if a thing is good for me will ultimately help me take true responsibility for my life and my choices.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
What's Good for Me?
When we are soul searching, be it for the smaller or larger decisions we face during the day, we can learn to ask, is this good for me?... Is this what I really want?... Is this what I need?...Does this direction feel right for me?...or am I succumbing to the control and influence that I sometimes allow others to have over me?
It is not unhealthy selfishness to question if something is good for us. That is an old way of thinking. To ask if something is good for us is a healthy behavior, not to be ashamed of, and will probably work out in the other person's best interests too.
We shall not wander down a selfish path of self-indulgence by asking if a thing is good for us. We shall not stray from God's intended plan, God's highest good, by asking if a thing is good for us. By asking ourselves this simple question, we participate in directing our life toward the highest good and purpose; we own our power to hold ourselves in self-esteem.
Today, I will begin acting in my best interests. I will do this with the understanding that, on occasion, my choices will not please everyone around me. I will do this with the understanding that asking if a thing is good for me will ultimately help me take true responsibility for my life and my choices.
From The Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie ©1990, Hazelden Foundation.
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I don't recall ever thinking this in early recovery. My thought were always "What can I do to make him happy" and then I would go about doing what I thought was good for him (my addicted son) rather than even considering the effect that what I was doing might have on me.
When I didn't take care of myself, I got sicker and sicker until somewhere along the way I totally lost sight of myself, my needs and what was good for me.
It wasn't until I began learning who I was, that I could decide what I needed to be happy, to be healthy and to be alive. Today I take very good care of myself, physically, mentally and emotionally. I will never again allow myself to go back to that dark sick place of codependent living.
How about you? Are you taking care of yourself today? What's good for you?
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When I didn't take care of myself, I got sicker and sicker until somewhere along the way I totally lost sight of myself, my needs and what was good for me.
It wasn't until I began learning who I was, that I could decide what I needed to be happy, to be healthy and to be alive. Today I take very good care of myself, physically, mentally and emotionally. I will never again allow myself to go back to that dark sick place of codependent living.
How about you? Are you taking care of yourself today? What's good for you?
Hugs
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I took care of some things that I needed to do today--errands and stuff. I've also bee studying, which is good for me. I listened to music and danced along for awhile. I made sure that I ate regular meals today, and ate fairly well. Now, I'm relaxing in front of the TV.
This is a good question. I'm going to try to remember to ask myself this question this weekend.
This is a good question. I'm going to try to remember to ask myself this question this weekend.
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