Milly39

Yesterday evening AH called to see how the boys were and after the usual "small talk" he starts by saying...you're not going to like this but....

AH : I love you

Me : Good for you - I hope that keeps you warm at night, cause it doesn't do anything for me

AH : Don't be like that - I know we can get back together at some stage in the future - I am going to give up drinking and get myself sorted out.

Me: Are you deluded?? This will Never happen and I mean NEVER

AH : Lots of people get sober and their wives support them through it...WHY can't you support me??

At that I hung up on him and didn't answer when he called back twice.

We have been seperated since November and he is still drinking. Every so often i get the speech - " I'm giving up today, that was my last drink " quack, quack, quack!!

Now that he has seen how great our new place is and how happy we are in our new home, he thinking " I want some of that too" so If i'll tell her I'm giving up drinking, she'll take me back - bada bing !!!!

THe whole conversation is so unbelivable, I just laughed and then thought, GOD he really thinks there's a chance for us....well NEWFLASH!!! NOT HAPPENING - EVER !!!

kudzujean

Good for you not buying into his quacking! I think you nailed it, he sees how good you have it now and wants that for himself.

akalacha

WOW! That's some quacking. Good for you for not getting sucked back in. It sounds like you're doing well. Enjoy your boys and your new home and your new life.

Hopeworks

The broken cracked record... I have that same quack from my XA. I had to see him after 6 months of NC to sign legal paperwork and he was sooo sweet and sincere but I resisted his charms and lies. He left Florida headed to the West coast and didn't make it 500 miles before he was gambling, drinking and got a DUI!

Sure enough the quacks for help (gambled away all his cash) blew up my phone (he calls from strangers phones as he is blocked) began. NC... it is a no quack zone as my new boundary!

Stay strong...

Learn2Live

The No Quack Zone-Love it! Thanks Hopeworks!

Milly39

Hopeworks - the no quack zone is a great idea, but its impossible to go NC when you have kids, unfortunately

laurie6781

(((((Milly)))))

You are correct, but fortunately for you that the moment he drifts off the children
as a subject you are free to hang up.

Sounds like you are working your program to the max!!!!!! I applaud you!!!!

Very nice response to his Quacking!!!!

Keep up the good work.

Love and hugs,

Milly39

Thanks Laurie - I am the master at hanging up - have had years of experience unfortunately.
I have come along way - I used to buy into the quacking in the past and melt like butter when he promised me the " sun, moon and stars".
Now I know the signs and I hear the quacking - going to al-anon, a therapist and having SR has helped me to see the light.