You don't like people
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You don't like people
Day 1 again has just started but this time I am going to bite the bullet and go to AA. I went to AA twice in Abu Dhabi when I worked there 2 years ago and stpped going because I simply chickened out. I stood outside the third time and would not go in and went home. I realise what I knew all along that I cannot do it alone and why would I even want to. It seems like I make myself be alone as a reason to drink. One of my soon to be ex wife's parting comments was
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
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Yes that's how I am, I like to drink alone. I like to drink the way I want and don't want anyone drinking my beer.
But I really want to live sober. I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow, and go to about 4 meetings a week.
Yesterday my friends made me get dropped off at a meeting and find my own ride home. They want me to have to ask for help. It worked out fine.
Hope it goes well for you. *hug*
But I really want to live sober. I have my first therapy appointment tomorrow, and go to about 4 meetings a week.
Yesterday my friends made me get dropped off at a meeting and find my own ride home. They want me to have to ask for help. It worked out fine.
Hope it goes well for you. *hug*
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Well, I was isolating in my drinking years too. And, I did find that it helped immensely to get out and be around people. Volunteer work really helped me to slowly rebuild my confidence and make new friends.
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You might find this thread helpful. AVRT helps me a lot.
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good luck man you can do it! for me my addiction rationalizes why i should get more and it always worked. I would always have a reason to get high and feel nothing but guilt about it. I have been doing this cycle for 20 yrs and today im starting AGAIN. I now realize i need to talk to people about it,it feels good. Many people in the same boat brother,get the help you need and good luck.
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I drank because I was alone and isolated myself so I could be alone to drink. Stupid really.
I hope AA helps you Kza. It is such a great supportive place to be. I also made the excuse that people annoy the hell out of me to isolate myself. But I actually haven't met anyone in AA who was annoying. I think really they're just my sort of people
I hope AA helps you Kza. It is such a great supportive place to be. I also made the excuse that people annoy the hell out of me to isolate myself. But I actually haven't met anyone in AA who was annoying. I think really they're just my sort of people
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Awesome that you recognize this in yourself. You are certainly not alone. I isolated in my drinking as well, it was easier to get away with it if nobody was around to notice. Now I enjoy little things like being able to drive to the store at 8:00p.m. because I haven't been drinking, or make plans for an early morning hike because I'm not hung over.
Good luck Kza!
Good luck Kza!
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I do like people but I have no confidence.
So I used to pour an ocean of booze down my neck to make conversation and interaction easier.
What a fool I was. That just made everything 1000 times harder.
Not only did I make a complete berk of myself, it made others laugh at me and then they took pleaseure in reminding me and then I wanted to hide away and isolate even further.
I then used booze to stop the hideous thoughts in my head about my past behaviour and enable me to sit by myself in my own company at home.
Also when I was hidden at home - no-one could laugh at me, criticise how much I drank or see me at my worst. It made life 100% easier.
That then made it hard to be with others again - socialising and interacting.
So once again I pured a vat of drink down my neck to ease the process.
And so it went on.
One painful episode after another.
Soon it just merged into life as I knew it.
If you don't like people that's fair enough, but I think that if you eradicate booze, you will see the lonely existence you have been leading.
So I used to pour an ocean of booze down my neck to make conversation and interaction easier.
What a fool I was. That just made everything 1000 times harder.
Not only did I make a complete berk of myself, it made others laugh at me and then they took pleaseure in reminding me and then I wanted to hide away and isolate even further.
I then used booze to stop the hideous thoughts in my head about my past behaviour and enable me to sit by myself in my own company at home.
Also when I was hidden at home - no-one could laugh at me, criticise how much I drank or see me at my worst. It made life 100% easier.
That then made it hard to be with others again - socialising and interacting.
So once again I pured a vat of drink down my neck to ease the process.
And so it went on.
One painful episode after another.
Soon it just merged into life as I knew it.
If you don't like people that's fair enough, but I think that if you eradicate booze, you will see the lonely existence you have been leading.
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Originally Posted by ACT10Npack 
There is a lot of recovery programs out there and if your not confortable with it then try an other one. But with most programs you will be around people who are trying to recovery from their drug of choice.
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I found it more embarassing getting blackout drunk in front of work colleagues, family and friends at various social events than I do attending meetings with a bunch of former drunks who all want to stop drinking.......xxxx
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Originally Posted by Sasha4
I found it more embarassing getting blackout drunk in front of work colleagues, family and friends at various social events than I do attending meetings with a bunch of former drunks who all want to stop drinking.......xxxx
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Originally Posted by Kza
Day 1 again has just started but this time I am going to bite the bullet and go to AA. I went to AA twice in Abu Dhabi when I worked there 2 years ago and stpped going because I simply chickened out. I stood outside the third time and would not go in and went home. I realise what I knew all along that I cannot do it alone and why would I even want to. It seems like I make myself be alone as a reason to drink. One of my soon to be ex wife's parting comments was
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
All the best.
Bob R
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Originally Posted by Kza
One of my soon to be ex wife's parting comments was
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
'you don't like people'
Not true, it is just that I have always put drinking first and it is easier alone. Plus I get to drink as I am alone.
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