Butterfly74

Hi, I have been reading the threads for hours...looking for hope and words of encouragement.
My husband and I decided to get off pills together after 4 years of heavy addiction. Its almost 48 hours since our last pill and as I have been reading other's stories.
It is hell. And I am not alone.
I just want to say ...This website and the people on it are amazing. Even though I feel like death. Every hour is worse than the last. It is nice to know their are people out there who have beaten this. Thank you all for sharing, because it looks like its gonna be a bumpy ride.

Caledonia1

I think you are both doing an amazing job especially doing it together. You can do it.

candi7

You guys are making the right decision... I hope you guys are doing this with the help of medical profession-Cold turkey can kill folk... Congrats on your decision.. you've got a host of cheerleaders here!

Sapling

Welcome...I don't know about pills....But alcohol took me on a rollercoaster ride I don't want to repeat....I did consult with a doctor and had a medically supervised detox...Made it a little less painful. Something you and your husband might want to consider....Glad you found the site...And congrats on making a great decision.

Taking5

I second Sapling's idea of a medically supervised detox. It probably saved my life. Stay strong and we are here for you.

NoFireWater

Welcome Butterfly! Yes, it'll be a bumpy ride, but really worth it! Good for you to make this choice!!

Butterfly74

Well. We are on day 3.
The chills and stomach cramps are the worst. We had to sleep in seperate rooms last night due to the leg jerks and full body spasms. If you call what happened in those hours "sleep" that is.
I know there is a light at the end of this tunnel.
I just know, one day, I will feel normal again.

Jeni26

Hope you've got medical support?
I don't know anything about pills, but me and my H just celebrated 3 months sober together after drinking throughout our 21 year marriage. It can be done. We've got a whole new relationship now. Strong, honest and real.
Wishing you both every success x

Butterfly74

Thanks Jeni.
Congrats! and its so good to hear that a couple can achieve soberity together.
I needed to hear that today.

hypochondriac

Welcome to SR Butterfly Are you getting any other support other than coming here? x

Grace2

Hi Butterfly

Welcome to S.R

I've never done pills, but I'm on the alcoholic roller coater ride. Day 9 of freedom and it's feeling good! this is my 2nd time round on here and it will be my last.

I think it is great that you and your other half are doing this together. I should imagine that these 1st few days are the worst, but you can do it and better still, do it together.

If you need medical help, go and get it, get all the help available.

Keep posting and be honest, especially to your self.

Big hugs

Gxxx

Butterfly74

We are in financial ruin...so no medical help nor any meds to make it easier.
This is day 3 ...and I hear its the worst.
I think the thing that is heartbreaking ... my husband just texted me "I can't do this"
I told him "Yes! we can! We are!"

If the tears would stop ... I might be able to be more supportive to him. But doesn't he understand I feel like death too?
*sigh* .... I WILL get through this!

Grace2

My day 3 of no drinking was horrendous, spent the whole day crying, dwelling on the bad things I've done, full of self loathing, etc etc. Don't want to go back to that dark place ever again.

No pain, no gain.

Keep with it, it will be worth it. Keep posting and be honest to yourself.

Big hugs

Gxxx

rocksandy

I suggest not to lose your hope ,keep trying if you relapse , I have tried for a couple of years and now relaxing with more than a 100 days..
The time is called bitter sweet !!.If you are on medication and a heavy drinker or feel any withdrawal problems please do not ignore professional help.

Dix

tomsteve

i am very glad you both want to get clean. have you thought of support like NA? it helps to have people who have not only been there physically, but mentally, too.

Butterfly74

And it gets better? right?

Anna

Welcome, Butterfly!

Jeni26

It gets better and better, otherwise no-one would bother doing it!
Read the posts of people who have made it past a year.... I believe what they tell me. You are in the hardest bit, hang on in there x

Butterfly74

I never thought of going to the grocery store as a challenge before.
But I did it! Through the sweats ...through the shakes... through the people.
I did it!
Day 4 ....bring it on! I can baby step through you too!!!

artsoul

That's excellent, Butterfly!

Baby steps are the way to go. If you can stay sober for 5 minutes, you can do it for another 5. That's how I got through the first several days and yes, it does get easier in time.

Welcome to the forum, by the way!