Nervous About Tomorrow
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Nervous About Tomorrow
Well, I'm at Day 4 and feeling okay but letting the mind wander. My band is playing a big music festival tomorrow and I know it's going to be hard to resist drinking back stage with all the other bands (and friends). Ugh, I keep telling myself to stay strong and then another part says, eh, you can go ahead tomorrow and then start again. Then I think of how much I'll actually enjoy the rest of the festival and morning after if I abstain. Ugh, the life.
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I'm going through the same emotions right now. Dinner out with friends tonight and a party tomorrow, a concert on Sunday
I keep thinking - Oh I can have a few and start again Monday. But I also know I won't have a few and I'll just miss or not enjoy most of my weekend because of the hangover. So I have to give it my best try and I hope I succeed
I wish you the best of luck in abstaining (and with the gig)
I keep thinking - Oh I can have a few and start again Monday. But I also know I won't have a few and I'll just miss or not enjoy most of my weekend because of the hangover. So I have to give it my best try and I hope I succeed
I wish you the best of luck in abstaining (and with the gig)
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Originally Posted by RiverFriend 
Well, I'm at Day 4 and feeling okay but letting the mind wander. My band is playing a big music festival tomorrow and I know it's going to be hard to resist drinking back stage with all the other bands (and friends). Ugh, I keep telling myself to stay strong and then another part says, eh, you can go ahead tomorrow and then start again. Then I think of how much I'll actually enjoy the rest of the festival and morning after if I abstain. Ugh, the life.
You really can do this, 4 days is amazing.. think about it! My first week was sooo hard-then I started going to AA meetings...But you got this! HAVE A BLAST playing your music and don't give up the fight!
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Riverfriend:
Last week somebody faced the same thing you did, except she was in the audience not the band...hope her experience gives you a boost in confidence:
Last week somebody faced the same thing you did, except she was in the audience not the band...hope her experience gives you a boost in confidence:
Originally Posted by 773niki
Wow. After drinking for almost 10 years (daily, living off vodka shots and fumes), I became sober in August of 2010 for 4 months after a stay in rehab. I have been on and off the wagon for the past 2 years. (typical: 4 months on, 1-2 week binge followed by guilt and self-loathing, repeat cycle).
Anyway, been sober again for almost 2 weeks and decided this is it for me. No more drinking. No, Niki, I cannot control it. I have tried for 2 years - get the picture!!!
BUT, long story short, I love live music and have been avoiding shows for 2 years (along with sporting events and anything that involves a bar, which for a 28, 29 and 30 year old girl, is quite hard). BUT< ON SATURDAY, I went to an all day concert (was outside at the festival/concert from 1pm to midnight) with my boyfriend (who doesn't drink because I don't drink, very supportive guy, gotta love him) and 4 other friends who did drink all day and night long.
I was the designated driver - can you believe that? And I actually had a good time! Could you believe that? I couldn't believe that!
I thought I would be miserable. I thought I would act like a bump on a log. I thought the drunk people (and people in general) would annoy me. I thought I would be salivating the whole time. I thought I would want to go home after an hour. Now, don't get me wrong, I thought about alcohol alot, watched how many drinks each of my friends had, watched them double fisting draft beers and mixed drinks in an effort not to have to wait in line again...and I had alot of fresh lemonade, waters, and smoothies. I cannot, and I mean I CANNOT believe I had fun! It's amazing.
I danced a bit (it was folksy rock music, so it wasn't mosh-pit hip hop or anything nutty like that). I laughed. I had fun. And these weren't even my friends we went with - they were my boyfriend's friends - so I hardly knew them and I've ALWAYS used alcohol as a buffer and as a social lubricant because I don't know how to be "me" but I figured it out on Saturday.
I am so thankful I tried this and succeeded. I've never felt more alive and happy in my life. I honest to god did not think I would be able to do this and have fun. And I did have fun! I've almost locked myself up for 2 years, afraid to be me, afraid to go out because others drink and I Was so afraid of what they would think of me not drinking.
Will they think I'm a loser? Only dorks don't drink. With they think I'm a crazy person? People who don't understand alcoholism simply don't understand it. What do you mean? You're a 30-year old smart, pretty girl? Just stop after a few beers! Haha, yeah right. Been there, tried that, doesn't work for me.
I's sorry for the rant guys, I just really didn't believe I'd have any fun and it's so empowering knowing that I can do this.
Don't get me wrong, half of me still thinks I could've potentially had a bit more fun with some alcohol in me, but the icing on the cake was waking up at the hotel the next morning, me and my boyfriend bright eyes and bushy tailed, ready for breakfast - and seeing our 4 friends hungover as hell.
Thanks for listening.
Anyway, been sober again for almost 2 weeks and decided this is it for me. No more drinking. No, Niki, I cannot control it. I have tried for 2 years - get the picture!!!
BUT, long story short, I love live music and have been avoiding shows for 2 years (along with sporting events and anything that involves a bar, which for a 28, 29 and 30 year old girl, is quite hard). BUT< ON SATURDAY, I went to an all day concert (was outside at the festival/concert from 1pm to midnight) with my boyfriend (who doesn't drink because I don't drink, very supportive guy, gotta love him) and 4 other friends who did drink all day and night long.
I was the designated driver - can you believe that? And I actually had a good time! Could you believe that? I couldn't believe that!
I thought I would be miserable. I thought I would act like a bump on a log. I thought the drunk people (and people in general) would annoy me. I thought I would be salivating the whole time. I thought I would want to go home after an hour. Now, don't get me wrong, I thought about alcohol alot, watched how many drinks each of my friends had, watched them double fisting draft beers and mixed drinks in an effort not to have to wait in line again...and I had alot of fresh lemonade, waters, and smoothies. I cannot, and I mean I CANNOT believe I had fun! It's amazing.
I danced a bit (it was folksy rock music, so it wasn't mosh-pit hip hop or anything nutty like that). I laughed. I had fun. And these weren't even my friends we went with - they were my boyfriend's friends - so I hardly knew them and I've ALWAYS used alcohol as a buffer and as a social lubricant because I don't know how to be "me" but I figured it out on Saturday.
I am so thankful I tried this and succeeded. I've never felt more alive and happy in my life. I honest to god did not think I would be able to do this and have fun. And I did have fun! I've almost locked myself up for 2 years, afraid to be me, afraid to go out because others drink and I Was so afraid of what they would think of me not drinking.
Will they think I'm a loser? Only dorks don't drink. With they think I'm a crazy person? People who don't understand alcoholism simply don't understand it. What do you mean? You're a 30-year old smart, pretty girl? Just stop after a few beers! Haha, yeah right. Been there, tried that, doesn't work for me.
I's sorry for the rant guys, I just really didn't believe I'd have any fun and it's so empowering knowing that I can do this.
Don't get me wrong, half of me still thinks I could've potentially had a bit more fun with some alcohol in me, but the icing on the cake was waking up at the hotel the next morning, me and my boyfriend bright eyes and bushy tailed, ready for breakfast - and seeing our 4 friends hungover as hell.
Thanks for listening.
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Thanks Slim Slim....yes, good reminder. I saw that post and was good to read again (I can certainly relate). Anyway, I've made the decision not to drink tomorrow and know I can do this. I know it's "just for today" but think it this situation, it should also be "and just for tomorrow" haha. My wife and baby will be going and I've decided I will be driving the bus. It seems like when I take on responsibilities, I can really commit myself to those things and put before drinking. Thanks again all.
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Hey Dee74,
So true on playing better sober....when we were much younger and starting out we'd get pretty blitzed on stage and no one wants to see that. As we grew, we put a 2 band rules in place 1) One beer limit per opening band and 2) no one goes to jail. It's worked for years.
But no, I do not have to stay and might leave early. It's an outdoor camping festival with about 30 bands, many of which are friends. My wife and I decided to play it by ear and if it's too crazy, we'll trek home. Have a good and safe weekend everyone.
So true on playing better sober....when we were much younger and starting out we'd get pretty blitzed on stage and no one wants to see that. As we grew, we put a 2 band rules in place 1) One beer limit per opening band and 2) no one goes to jail. It's worked for years.
But no, I do not have to stay and might leave early. It's an outdoor camping festival with about 30 bands, many of which are friends. My wife and I decided to play it by ear and if it's too crazy, we'll trek home. Have a good and safe weekend everyone.
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