Hold on tightly – we are in for a ride
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Hold on tightly – we are in for a ride
My last post described a very successful Friday night. Saturday was filled with pride and happiness. We took a drive to visit family, and I stared out the window admiring the beautiful (although partially poached) rolling hills and I was very much aware of the peace and happiness that I felt. I have been longing for that peace.
Then on Sunday, I rode to the bottom of the coaster. My middle child is an 18 year old boy. I love this child, and he loves me, but he can get under my skin like no one else. He said something to me that cut to the bone. I couldn’t shake it off.
That knot inside stayed with me the entire evening. I was inexcusably rude to the rest of my family. I didn’t sleep well.
But I made it to day 14.
Then on Sunday, I rode to the bottom of the coaster. My middle child is an 18 year old boy. I love this child, and he loves me, but he can get under my skin like no one else. He said something to me that cut to the bone. I couldn’t shake it off.
That knot inside stayed with me the entire evening. I was inexcusably rude to the rest of my family. I didn’t sleep well.But I made it to day 14.
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Boys can be incredibly cruel to their mothers at that age and for the next few years. They definitely know how to push buttons, and it can be really hard if they have been affected by a substance abuse problem. It's even worse if you are a single parent. I think a lot of it has to do with cutting the apron strings and finding their male identity. Even so, it does not take away the sting of some of the things young adult males say to mothers.
One of the things that I find so confusing about family relationships is that often times we say/treat family members in negative ways that we would never dream of doing to friends, co-workers or strangers. Even if we are testing their love or loyalty, it still does not make it right.
As adults, we're supposed to know how to handle our emotions, but sometimes the blows "cut to the bone" and we respond emotionally. Hopefully, you'll find a quiet moment to apologize for your rudeness.
You were tested and you passed the test by not drinking, so congrats on holding to your resolve with another day of sobriety.
Boys can be incredibly cruel to their mothers at that age and for the next few years. They definitely know how to push buttons, and it can be really hard if they have been affected by a substance abuse problem. It's even worse if you are a single parent. I think a lot of it has to do with cutting the apron strings and finding their male identity. Even so, it does not take away the sting of some of the things young adult males say to mothers.
One of the things that I find so confusing about family relationships is that often times we say/treat family members in negative ways that we would never dream of doing to friends, co-workers or strangers. Even if we are testing their love or loyalty, it still does not make it right.
As adults, we're supposed to know how to handle our emotions, but sometimes the blows "cut to the bone" and we respond emotionally. Hopefully, you'll find a quiet moment to apologize for your rudeness.
You were tested and you passed the test by not drinking, so congrats on holding to your resolve with another day of sobriety.
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Awesome job! Its times like these that can test everything we have. Like you said so well, we just have to hold on tight and pray. The next, day, minute or year is bound to get better. It is already better based on your decision on how to cope.
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