The addicts in my life are the only ones who...
The addicts in my life are the only ones who...
I'm now "addict" free and walked away from all the addicts in my life. yay me!
I've not contact my ex in 2 months or seen him in close to 4 months and I don't even think about him or even care. So over it!
But there was one thing I noticed, when you stand up to or confront or react to an addict, they ALWAYS say "you're crazy" or say "you have some sort of personality disorder"
I know it's mirroring, but whenever I have an issue with any other friend or person in my life who isn't an addict, there is never this exchange.
I also know it's not worth trying to make sense out of their scrambled egg brains, but it's almost unbelievable who they mirror themselves and call you out on everything they do or how they actually behave. You just NEED to react because it's so diabolical and you need to make it right!
No one in my life but an addict has ever called me crazy of accused me of being mentally unstable.
This thread comes on the heels of another exchange I had with a woman I used to work with at the cat shelter. She was livid when I left and did some horrible things to me. Last night, she has one of her new workers post a nasty comment on my work FB page. I've not interacted with them in 4 months and they've been still creeping my wall. Well last night, I didn't take it and I fought back but this insane person replied back with such craziness, I actually reacted.
These addicts will never cease to baffle me
your thoughts...
I've not contact my ex in 2 months or seen him in close to 4 months and I don't even think about him or even care. So over it!
But there was one thing I noticed, when you stand up to or confront or react to an addict, they ALWAYS say "you're crazy" or say "you have some sort of personality disorder"
I know it's mirroring, but whenever I have an issue with any other friend or person in my life who isn't an addict, there is never this exchange.
I also know it's not worth trying to make sense out of their scrambled egg brains, but it's almost unbelievable who they mirror themselves and call you out on everything they do or how they actually behave. You just NEED to react because it's so diabolical and you need to make it right!
No one in my life but an addict has ever called me crazy of accused me of being mentally unstable.
This thread comes on the heels of another exchange I had with a woman I used to work with at the cat shelter. She was livid when I left and did some horrible things to me. Last night, she has one of her new workers post a nasty comment on my work FB page. I've not interacted with them in 4 months and they've been still creeping my wall. Well last night, I didn't take it and I fought back but this insane person replied back with such craziness, I actually reacted.
These addicts will never cease to baffle me
your thoughts...
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My thoughts are you should block those people from your facebook. Immediately.
I agree and have witnessed the addict say nasty things about other people, judgmental, making other people go insane with their actions and behaviors and words, and then pointing their finger at the person and telling everyone who will listen how insane that person is, and that they have a mental illness. ALWAYS ignoring themselves and what they did to actually cause the person to go insane or act crazy.
I agree and have witnessed the addict say nasty things about other people, judgmental, making other people go insane with their actions and behaviors and words, and then pointing their finger at the person and telling everyone who will listen how insane that person is, and that they have a mental illness. ALWAYS ignoring themselves and what they did to actually cause the person to go insane or act crazy.
No one in my life but an addict has ever called me crazy of accused me of being mentally unstable.
i got that many times from my A..."go back to your group..they will tell you different on how to do this in our life"...the A in my life just did not want me to change and change started when i stopped people pleasing, enabling him and setting my boundaries and sticking with them...and that is all why he left me...(thank god, i got my serenity back)
sometimes we have to look how we have changed, and how othere HAVE NOT...alot of people (i realized) are unhealthy for me and toxic...now, i can use my boundaries...
i got that many times from my A..."go back to your group..they will tell you different on how to do this in our life"...the A in my life just did not want me to change and change started when i stopped people pleasing, enabling him and setting my boundaries and sticking with them...and that is all why he left me...(thank god, i got my serenity back)
sometimes we have to look how we have changed, and how othere HAVE NOT...alot of people (i realized) are unhealthy for me and toxic...now, i can use my boundaries...
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I have to learn how to keep them out of my life in the first place. I guess I need to be more vigilant. And more assertive. As Iyanla VanZant says:
When you see crazy comin', cross the street.
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I think it's a psychological defense mechanism known as "projection"
Psychological projection - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Psychological projection - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
My thoughts are you should block those people from your facebook. Immediately.
I agree and have witnessed the addict say nasty things about other people, judgmental, making other people go insane with their actions and behaviors and words, and then pointing their finger at the person and telling everyone who will listen how insane that person is, and that they have a mental illness. ALWAYS ignoring themselves and what they did to actually cause the person to go insane or act crazy.
I agree and have witnessed the addict say nasty things about other people, judgmental, making other people go insane with their actions and behaviors and words, and then pointing their finger at the person and telling everyone who will listen how insane that person is, and that they have a mental illness. ALWAYS ignoring themselves and what they did to actually cause the person to go insane or act crazy.
I cannot block them, it's a public open work FB page. They are blocked from my personal page but anyone can post on a public page. Sucks, but that's how FB is.
Yes, they do try to make others go insane. The word "insane" is a great word to apply to dealing with them.
It's like you just want to shake them and scream "are you that dumb"
It's beyond normal comprehension.
I think it's a psychological defense mechanism known as "projection"
Psychological projection - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Psychological projection - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
Talk about CRAZY!
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Hi :-)
I cannot block them, it's a public open work FB page. They are blocked from my personal page but anyone can post on a public page. Sucks, but that's how FB is.
Yes, they do try to make others go insane. The word "insane" is a great word to apply to dealing with them.
It's like you just want to shake them and scream "are you that dumb"
It's beyond normal comprehension.
I cannot block them, it's a public open work FB page. They are blocked from my personal page but anyone can post on a public page. Sucks, but that's how FB is.
Yes, they do try to make others go insane. The word "insane" is a great word to apply to dealing with them.
It's like you just want to shake them and scream "are you that dumb"
It's beyond normal comprehension.
If you truly have them blocked, they cannot see your posts and you cannot see their's. It's like they don't even exist (when they are on your blocked list). You may not have them on your friends list, but if can see what they are posting, then you don't have them entirely blocked. Block lists are in the privacy settings, I believe.
Summerpeach,
I am curious, are the addicts here (such as myself) considered to be projecting my crazy onto you?
I am admittedly a major depressive with an alcohol addiction, sober now and treated for my MDD.
I keep a watch on myself. Maybe I should not have responded, because I am not one of the people who projects my illness onto you.
But, there are other 2 time winners here, I am not the only one.
I wonder, am I not considered an addict in your life because I only live on the other side of this screen?
Just thinking. Not looking for any problems or arguments. I am sure you meant the addicts in your real life. and I can be too sensitive by far.
Beth
I am curious, are the addicts here (such as myself) considered to be projecting my crazy onto you?
I am admittedly a major depressive with an alcohol addiction, sober now and treated for my MDD.
I keep a watch on myself. Maybe I should not have responded, because I am not one of the people who projects my illness onto you.
But, there are other 2 time winners here, I am not the only one.
I wonder, am I not considered an addict in your life because I only live on the other side of this screen?
Just thinking. Not looking for any problems or arguments. I am sure you meant the addicts in your real life. and I can be too sensitive by far.
Beth
As your FINAL comment on that 'public FB page':
"What other people think of me is none of my business. Their problem not mine."
And don't go back to it, don't read it, and don't post again.
J M H O
Love and hugs,
"What other people think of me is none of my business. Their problem not mine."
And don't go back to it, don't read it, and don't post again.
J M H O
Love and hugs,
Thank you! I knew I read it somewhere but had no idea where. I'm sure the direct quote was more powerful but I can't remember it. I didn't really get it when I read it but do now.
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Yeah, my axbf did this to me all of the time, denied that he had a problem and accused me of causing all of the problems in the relationship. Of course he was never willing to seek out help from anywhere, like a therapist or a spiritual program, etc. Ultimately it's very frustrating to engage with a person that isn't willing to do any work on themselves and would rather blame it all on you... I was even blamed for not being supportive of his drinking buddies. You bet I wasn't supportive, I thought they were losers. :-P
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Yeah, my axbf did this to me all of the time, denied that he had a problem and accused me of causing all of the problems in the relationship. Of course he was never willing to seek out help from anywhere, like a therapist or a spiritual program, etc. Ultimately it's very frustrating to engage with a person that isn't willing to do any work on themselves and would rather blame it all on you... I was even blamed for not being supportive of his drinking buddies. You bet I wasn't supportive, I thought they were losers. :-P
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Absolutely, L2L, that's how they THINK! My sister, for example, drank and harmed herself because I was having financial problems, she was worried about ME, MY daughter was disrespectful to her, I wasn't helping her enough with our parents, I almost caused her to lose her job when I called the police after her suicide attempt, and on and on. It was never about her.
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