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hi, i've been on here many times and found it useful, i've only today signed up though. My husband is an alcoholic, he adimited to his problem about two years ago and is continuing to work towards recovery. He had lots of issues, and this is why he started drinking, the reasons were viable, but were excuses. We have resolved many of the problems he had, and he worked with specialists for when we needed extra help. Now though he has no viable reasons to drink and is venting his excuses towards me. I know when things go wrong and when you feel bad, the person closest to you tends to get it in the neck, but i'm scared i wont be able to deal with it. his anger and excuses are vented towards things i do, he gets drunk because of things i do, example i was late going to get take away and so he needed more beer to help him sleep. he has no interest in going to work, thats my fault, he hates where we live, thats my fault, he even told me its my fault it rains. i'm getting angry as i feel he's complaining about life, how his kids dont want to see him much (because he's always wasted) how he has no friends (because he's always wasted) how our families are loosing respect for him etc and he won't do anything about it. I dont want to get angry because i know alcohol abuse is an illness, and i cant support him feeling like this. but i am angry. i'm angry that this illness won't leave him, and i'm angry i cant do anything. and i'm angry that i'm falling apart. i feel better for venting on here. to all of us that live with this illness, there is no answer, there is no magic pill, there is only the support of thoses who know. thanks x
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Hi blowfly, 
to SR. I'm glad you found us. It sounds like you are in thick with your AH. Have you heard of Al-Anon? It has helped me to better understand myself and the disease of alcoholism. Here is a link for you to try, to locate an Al-Anon meeting:
http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/meetings/
I hope you will give Al-Anon a try.
to SR. I'm glad you found us. It sounds like you are in thick with your AH. Have you heard of Al-Anon? It has helped me to better understand myself and the disease of alcoholism. Here is a link for you to try, to locate an Al-Anon meeting:http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/meetings/
I hope you will give Al-Anon a try.
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There may not be any answers, but there is hope, hope that you can get away from it and learn to have peace in your life.
His journey is not going in that direction, but yours can.
Welcome, so glad you founds us, I'm so sorry to hear about the pain you are enduring.
It used to be my fault that it rained too, not anymore.
His journey is not going in that direction, but yours can.
Welcome, so glad you founds us, I'm so sorry to hear about the pain you are enduring.
It used to be my fault that it rained too, not anymore.
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