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Hi...I'm New here
Hi,
I just joined the group. I am now on my fourth day of sobriety. I know it sounds like nothing, but for me to go more than 24 hours with a drink or two or three is actually a monumental task.
My goal is abstinence, even though ideally I would like to be a social drinker...but the alcoholic side of me knows that one drink and it is game over.
Thanks for listening
Katan
I just joined the group. I am now on my fourth day of sobriety. I know it sounds like nothing, but for me to go more than 24 hours with a drink or two or three is actually a monumental task.
My goal is abstinence, even though ideally I would like to be a social drinker...but the alcoholic side of me knows that one drink and it is game over.
Thanks for listening
Katan
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Join Date: Jun 2012
Location: UK
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Welcome to SR and congratulations on being four days sober - that's wonderful.
We all have crazy ideas at some point that tell us we can be a social drinker eventually, that we'll be all right if we just get sober for a bit... that's just our addiction talking... as Anna has said, abstinence is the only way forward for an alcoholic.
We all have crazy ideas at some point that tell us we can be a social drinker eventually, that we'll be all right if we just get sober for a bit... that's just our addiction talking... as Anna has said, abstinence is the only way forward for an alcoholic.
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Welcome to SR :ghug3:
And while 4 days might not seem like much, it's pretty damn good.
As for being a social drinker... I somehow think that, for me, that's not an option. Looking back, social occasions were more about the drinking than the social side. Parties were about alcohol, after work get togethers... same thing.
Come to think of it, when I started drinking (at university) I might have gone to the union bar, but I went on my own, and I generally drank on my own.
And later on I mostly drank on my own. I might have said "I can drink like nice people," but I was never going to be one of those people who sat looking at a drink for half an hour.
Abstinance is, it seems, the only option. And it's easier than trying to remember to stop after two or three.
And while 4 days might not seem like much, it's pretty damn good.
As for being a social drinker... I somehow think that, for me, that's not an option. Looking back, social occasions were more about the drinking than the social side. Parties were about alcohol, after work get togethers... same thing.
Come to think of it, when I started drinking (at university) I might have gone to the union bar, but I went on my own, and I generally drank on my own.
And later on I mostly drank on my own. I might have said "I can drink like nice people," but I was never going to be one of those people who sat looking at a drink for half an hour.
Abstinance is, it seems, the only option. And it's easier than trying to remember to stop after two or three.
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Welcome Katan,
One day without alcohol was a big deal for most of us...so go ahead and allow yourself to feel great about 4
I think it's really important to acknowledge the sober steps we take...it's a tough battle but worth every bit of it.
One day without alcohol was a big deal for most of us...so go ahead and allow yourself to feel great about 4
I think it's really important to acknowledge the sober steps we take...it's a tough battle but worth every bit of it.
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Join Date: Jul 2012
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Good Job. The first 4-5 days are the worst and for me I started to feel really great after the first complete week was over.
I tried for years to drink moderately or occasionally and it just doesn't work. If you think you have a problem then you already know that you can't be a social drinker.
Sure, I could fool myself and only drink 2 or 3 with dinner in a restaurant and have done just that for a few weeks pretending I had it under control so I could start binge drinking again but it always ends in the same place after a while.
It feels 1000x better not having that as an option at all. It's easy after you get it through your skull and don't even consider backing down. At this point even thinking about the taste makes me feel sick.
I tried for years to drink moderately or occasionally and it just doesn't work. If you think you have a problem then you already know that you can't be a social drinker.
Sure, I could fool myself and only drink 2 or 3 with dinner in a restaurant and have done just that for a few weeks pretending I had it under control so I could start binge drinking again but it always ends in the same place after a while.
It feels 1000x better not having that as an option at all. It's easy after you get it through your skull and don't even consider backing down. At this point even thinking about the taste makes me feel sick.
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Originally Posted by MalkavianEmily 
Abstinance is, it seems, the only option. And it's easier than trying to remember to stop after two or three.
I don't drink gets easier and easier to say after a while.
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Thank you
Hi Everyone,
Thank you all for your words of support.. It is so nice to know that I am not the only one dealing with this problem. Is it normal to feel tired? For the last three days, I have taken 2 hour naps, and then still been tired! I am not sure how I am going to make it through a full day of work tomorrow with out a nap
And...do the cravings ever go away? Just asking...
Thank you all for your words of support.. It is so nice to know that I am not the only one dealing with this problem. Is it normal to feel tired? For the last three days, I have taken 2 hour naps, and then still been tired! I am not sure how I am going to make it through a full day of work tomorrow with out a nap
And...do the cravings ever go away? Just asking...
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Originally Posted by katan
Hi Everyone,
Thank you all for your words of support.. It is so nice to know that I am not the only one dealing with this problem. Is it normal to feel tired? For the last three days, I have taken 2 hour naps, and then still been tired! I am not sure how I am going to make it through a full day of work tomorrow with out a nap
And...do the cravings ever go away? Just asking...
Thank you all for your words of support.. It is so nice to know that I am not the only one dealing with this problem. Is it normal to feel tired? For the last three days, I have taken 2 hour naps, and then still been tired! I am not sure how I am going to make it through a full day of work tomorrow with out a nap
And...do the cravings ever go away? Just asking...
Also the cravings DO go away over time.
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Hi katan! So glad you are here.
I was exhausted for a few weeks - we beat ourselves up so badly, it takes time to heal and mend. For me, the cravings got less & less - then disappeared almost entirely. Not to paint too rosey of a picture, but that's how it was for me - and I drank all day for years.
It helped me so much to be part of this group & no longer alone. It really lessened my anxiety. I hope you'll feel a bit better each day. You can do this, katan.
I was exhausted for a few weeks - we beat ourselves up so badly, it takes time to heal and mend. For me, the cravings got less & less - then disappeared almost entirely. Not to paint too rosey of a picture, but that's how it was for me - and I drank all day for years.
It helped me so much to be part of this group & no longer alone. It really lessened my anxiety. I hope you'll feel a bit better each day. You can do this, katan.
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I'm on the boat as you katan, everytime I try to just have few socially it turns into an all night shot or a weekender. Hope everything works out for you but I'm drinking coffee to help me just now and seems to work.
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