lillamy

I don't know what's happened to me, but it's like I've passed some point in my recovery where... I don't look back as much as I look at today. I don't rehash what I went through in my alcoholic marriage as much as I look at my behaviors in my relationships today. And somehow, instead of thinking "Oh MAN am I ever damaged goods!" I think "Oh lookie here what I just identified as cobwebs from my last marriage -- how cool that I noticed, because now I can work on clearing them out!"

Maybe I'll go back and rehash old problems again -- but for right now, I'm really living in the now, and dealing with my thoughts and feelings TODAY. And that is a good thing.

Bluebonnet1

Self discovery is SO empowering!

pixilation

Yes!i had a similar discovery last night, that it is possible to have a disagreement without arguing, words of anger but then apologies, admitting oneself was wrong, and promising to fix it so it doesn't happen again. All without blaming the other person. It was eye-opening for sure.