The anxiety has diminished but..
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The anxiety has diminished but..
Well, i made it through 3 nights of not drinking. Yesterday I made 2 attempts to go to the bank to get some cash. I got close but the panic was so high i couldnt even drive into the parking lot. This morning was a big change. The anxiety was there mildly but I felt very confident. The derealization is still there but has also decreased. I drove all over the place and really didnt want to go home. Got to the bank and even did a little grocery shopping, started to panic a little but felt much better as I was checking out.
I wanted to do more but I only slept about 5 hrs. last night. I'm so tired today and feeling a little depressed. The past few days I told myself to just concentrate on the quitting drinking and dont worry about anything else. Now that I am feeling better today it seems depression is now setting in because I'm now thinking I have no job, no friends and i'm falling back into this life I drank myself away from. I'm grateful i havent drank but it scares the crap out of me to deal with all these feelings I've had since even before I ever had my first drink. The depression, the anxiety, the lonliness, and a overall feeling that I just dont know how to live with all these feelings. Once again I feel like I'm crying out for help. I'm confused.
Any advice?
I wanted to do more but I only slept about 5 hrs. last night. I'm so tired today and feeling a little depressed. The past few days I told myself to just concentrate on the quitting drinking and dont worry about anything else. Now that I am feeling better today it seems depression is now setting in because I'm now thinking I have no job, no friends and i'm falling back into this life I drank myself away from. I'm grateful i havent drank but it scares the crap out of me to deal with all these feelings I've had since even before I ever had my first drink. The depression, the anxiety, the lonliness, and a overall feeling that I just dont know how to live with all these feelings. Once again I feel like I'm crying out for help. I'm confused.
Any advice?
Mits, well done on three nights. You are crossing one thing off your list of worries. :-)
For me, sometimes it is enough to relish the small things. A cup of coffee, breathing in and out, realizing that being alive is a gift even if sometimes it feels crappy. And when I get hardcore, I make a list of all the things that are good about life to take the place of those that are bringing me down.
I hope you feel better today. We are rooting for you, so that is one thing you can add to your "good things" list. You have friends here!! :ghug3
For me, sometimes it is enough to relish the small things. A cup of coffee, breathing in and out, realizing that being alive is a gift even if sometimes it feels crappy. And when I get hardcore, I make a list of all the things that are good about life to take the place of those that are bringing me down.
I hope you feel better today. We are rooting for you, so that is one thing you can add to your "good things" list. You have friends here!! :ghug3
My sponsor would tell me to keep going to my meetings, no matter how bad I feel. It is the only thing in the whole wide world that made me feel better. 90 in 90, and now, with 6 months under me, I am still going once a day at least, sometime 2wice. It is making me feel so much better. I don't have a job either, but I am not drinking. I talk about not having a job in my meetings, and they always make me feel better.
Congrats on 3 Days Mits. It might not seem like it, but that's a big step forwards.
I don't know whether my depression started before or after my drinking. I had problems with my life before I started drinking, and I did tend to withdraw inwards, but I think I was reasonably happy most of the time. Certainly when they went away I was.
And I don't think I drank to cope. At least, not at first. At first I drank because I liked how it made me feel. Maybe there was a little bit of drinking to fit in, I'm not sure. If there was, it didn't last long, maybe for the first couple of parties at university. After that, I drank because I liked it. Lager and vodka were my drinks of choice, although when I left university I stopped drinking vodka.
And yes, it is hard to deal with feelings when you stop drinking. Because we don't really deal with them when we do. It's a bit like swingball (or tetherball if you prefer). We knock them away, but they always come back round again.
It will get better. Stay strong. You're worth it.
I don't know whether my depression started before or after my drinking. I had problems with my life before I started drinking, and I did tend to withdraw inwards, but I think I was reasonably happy most of the time. Certainly when they went away I was.
And I don't think I drank to cope. At least, not at first. At first I drank because I liked how it made me feel. Maybe there was a little bit of drinking to fit in, I'm not sure. If there was, it didn't last long, maybe for the first couple of parties at university. After that, I drank because I liked it. Lager and vodka were my drinks of choice, although when I left university I stopped drinking vodka.
And yes, it is hard to deal with feelings when you stop drinking. Because we don't really deal with them when we do. It's a bit like swingball (or tetherball if you prefer). We knock them away, but they always come back round again.
It will get better. Stay strong. You're worth it.
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Mits, I made through 3 nights as well. Congratulations! Mentally it was hard, but for me physically I feel soo much better. I have actually slept better as well. What I struggle with is my mind trying to make excuses to drink. There are so many things that are triggers for me (happiness, loneliness, boredom, etc). I need to go to the food store, but I am nervous that I will make an excuse to buy wine. That is what usually has happened in the past, I think I'm doing good and then just start all over again. I am hoping this time will be different. I just need to be keep strong and focused and not give up! Good luck in your recovery, we can do it!
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You guys are mentioning lonliness here...My drinking was at is worst when I was drinking alone....For me...Going to meetings and meeting people with the same problem I had that were doing something about it...Was the only option I had that made any sense...Try to beat this thing alone...Or do it with the help of people already doing it. Ponder that for a little bit.
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Well done on the store and little steps like that can be so rewarding. I also felt so down when I finally surrendered I had nothing left either no car,job,money, ect. But I have found so much in the rooms of AA. It is such a wonderful feeling to walk in and be truly welcomed each and every time. And truly missed if I cant make it.
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. I'm grateful i havent drank but it scares the crap out of me to deal with all these feelings I've had since even before I ever had my first drink. The depression, the anxiety, the lonliness, and a overall feeling that I just dont know how to live with all these feelings. Once again I feel like I'm crying out for help. I'm confused.
Any advice?
Any advice?
Mits, did you Google and read AA's "How It Works" and "The Doctor's Opinion" ? Can you identify with those documents? AA is the treatment.
All the best.
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Hi Mits, I could have written your original post myself. Congrats on the three nights - I think I'm about one day behind you as I'm starting day three here. I share your feelings of depression and feeling like I'm back to what I wanted to avoid. I'm also practically hysterical over dealing with these bad feelings.
I do think the feelings are less raw with a few days away from the alcohol though, so I'm telling myself that staying stopped is the only way through this, no matter how bad it might feel. I also did a SMART meeting online last night, which helped me a lot to feel less isolated (I'm stuck in my house nursing a sick kitty).
Good luck, we can do this!! :ghug3
I do think the feelings are less raw with a few days away from the alcohol though, so I'm telling myself that staying stopped is the only way through this, no matter how bad it might feel. I also did a SMART meeting online last night, which helped me a lot to feel less isolated (I'm stuck in my house nursing a sick kitty).
Good luck, we can do this!! :ghug3
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