SuzanQ

Im having trouble finding my place....not sure if I need AA or Alanon? Help!!

KnowHope

i need both today, but i believe in triage. for myself it was AA first, then Alanon. i couldn't appropriately address co-dependence while drinking because i couldn't take the steps too effectively if i were drunk.

what's your situation?

sugarbear1

Want to share what's going on with you?

I started as an ACOA (adult child of alcoholic) and then I went to Al Anon (for family and friends of alcoholics--my bf was an alcoholic) and I ended up in AA for me as I was drinking every night.

Glad you are here!

SuzanQ

My dad is an alcoholic and my family is highly dysfunctional. I married a porn/sex addict and stayed married for 22 years. I met my now fiance 5 years ago at work and same department. He is an alcoholic been in recovery and relapsed many times(only one rehab and relapse in the last 5 years) I was what I thought a social drinker until it became a habit for a couple years now. I can take it or leave it at times but eventually it keeps calling my name. I would have 2 drinks made the same way each time and it would be enough where I would be buzzed and just fall asleep. All Ive done for a few years now is work,drink,sleep. I have no life. My days off I sit and worry about my AF. He is also a serious diabetic and matter of factly he hasn't eaten since June 17th and has not had his insulin since friday last week. We are on vacation this week he has been in bed since sunday. We had plans this week and i'm mad as hell. All I know at this point I do not want to drink anymore......this is just a short version....hope it makes some sense!

FredG

I think we need a little more information.

If your issues are directly related to your drinking then your probably need to work on your quitting. I recommend a recovery program of some kind. I prefer AA

If your issues are related to the drinking of someone close, Alanon is probably one of the answers.

If your issues are related to both then start cleaning yourself up first, then join Alanon. I know lots of people that have feet in both AA and Alanon.

sugarbear1

I'd start with AA. Take care of you, it's priority. Area 26 of Alcoholics Anonymous in Kentucky for a meeting list of AA groups so you have in person support. There are 79 meetings available within 10 miles of Newport, KY.

Glad you're here!

SuzanQ

Thanks for the link sugarbear....My place of employment has AA meetings everyday of the week and alanon on saturdays. I need to start somewhere and I think i would be comfortable.

Dee74

Hi and welcome Suzan

I'm not in either, but I think it's possible for some of us to need and to attend both things

I know you'll find a ton of support here

D

Carly2332

I have a drinking problem and my boyfriend does also. I'm trying to quit. It definately makes it hard when the person you're around everyday is doing the one thing that you're trying to quit. His drinking sometimes aggrevates me, and I then I drink to cope with my emotions. It is a weird situation to be in. Having a drinking problem yourself, but being bothered by somebody else's drinking problem. I feel like a hypocrite sometimes. I know I need to put myself first, and so do you. Good luck with your recovery and don't give up!

desertsong

Hi Suzan.

I am married to an alcoholic but I'm also an adult child of alcoholics and an alcoholic myself. I started with AA, and my sponsor, who has 28 years of sobriety and is also a codie and ACOA, strongly suggested I only do AA for now. We toss in some principles of Al-Anon in our weekly meetings and in my step work, but at this time, AA is my priority. I have to get myself strong before I can start working on the other stuff. And I think you do too. You matter. Take care of you first.

Hevyn

It's great to have you here, Suzan. Glad you're reaching out for some help - it's a huge relief when you face up to what's happening and take action.