success in boundary making!
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success in boundary making!
Me: I'm reluctant to get into a car with you again, after what happened both today and yesterday. We have to put safeguards in place to ensure that doesn't happen.
AH: What are you talking about?
ME: I don't want to get into a car with you again if you're going to escalate, swear and yell at me.
AH: I didn't do that, I just talk loud and you're too sensitive and bla bla bla quack quack quack
ME: blink. blink.
AH: What do you want from me?
ME: I want you to respect my boundary. Whatever you call what happened in the car today? That is not going to happen again, or I'm not getting into another car with you.
Now, the beautiful thing is I
1) dont' actually believe he'll respect my boundary and
2) have magically shifted from being ok with fighting with this idiot to only wanting my space to not be infringed upon by his negativity and insanity so
3) this will be an easy boundary to enforce. He yells or swears and I dont' get into a car with him. Period.
Should be interesting, considering his car is not running.
AH: What are you talking about?
ME: I don't want to get into a car with you again if you're going to escalate, swear and yell at me.
AH: I didn't do that, I just talk loud and you're too sensitive and bla bla bla quack quack quack
ME: blink. blink.
AH: What do you want from me?
ME: I want you to respect my boundary. Whatever you call what happened in the car today? That is not going to happen again, or I'm not getting into another car with you.
Now, the beautiful thing is I
1) dont' actually believe he'll respect my boundary and
2) have magically shifted from being ok with fighting with this idiot to only wanting my space to not be infringed upon by his negativity and insanity so
3) this will be an easy boundary to enforce. He yells or swears and I dont' get into a car with him. Period.
Should be interesting, considering his car is not running.
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I didn't do that, I just talk loud and you're too sensitive and bla bla bla quack quack quack
Okay, then why are people staring at you? Why are you so red in the face?
Geez
I'm too sensitive. Right. I just want peace. Especially in a closed up space like a car.
:ghug3
Beth
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Beth I am SO grateful that I've shifted from trying to explain things to him, to stating my boundary and enforcing it regardless of whether or not he agrees, understands or participates.
All of that crap your ex and my AH are saying about us= none of our business.
I also just realized what his problem is. He's not drinking because we're broke and I already told him we need our last $100 for groceries for the next week, which is NOTHING when you have feed four people!
All of that crap your ex and my AH are saying about us= none of our business.
I also just realized what his problem is. He's not drinking because we're broke and I already told him we need our last $100 for groceries for the next week, which is NOTHING when you have feed four people!
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My NPD business partner that I'm also divorcing just sent me, her and my attorney an email accusing me of talking to others about our business, real nice like. She's baiting me, but I am not taking it!! Yay, finally..
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