Zee

Has anybody else been taken for a mug by people who knew 'when you were actively drinking' had a bad memory? You know, like saying... 'No, I never did that, you must have been drunk' When you know full well (with evidence) that they did! I won't go into details, but since I have been sober (over 9 months) and getting all my brain funtion back (150%) I am thinking that some people were using my lowest ebb to their advantage!

Just wondering if anyone has had any experience with this?

(Maybe has already been covered in previous threads, but I'm starting my own anyway!)

LDT

Yes. My own mother did that to me. 'nuff said.

YVRguy

Well on this I think its a two way street.

How many lies and how much deception did I practice while drinking?

I don't expect everyone or actually anyone to be truthful with me as my past shows I have not been with them. I haven't even been truthful with myself a lot of the time....

sugarbear1

at 1 year, my brain is not back at 100%.....

Fluttering

Does it really matter? Just thinking that what is in the past is in the past and for me, what matters most is knowing with certainty I am not the person I used to be. As I take my inventory HP will reveal to me what I need to know and where I need to clean on the street where I live and the Sunlight of the Spirit will reveal the dark corners of my mind and heart

Heard once in a meeting and it stuck with me.."Your perceptions are not my reality." I don't always say that verbally to whomever I talk to, but it plays in my mind and it keeps me from getting into any conflicts with that person 'cuz as it says in the BB.."We have ceased fighting anything or anyone."

Zee

Understood, thanks. Having a bad day and a little rant My bad.

sissy07

yeah, I have had that same thing happen to me. They were probably right - I was very open (too much so) and spoke out of turn about private things that were nobody's business. Also just lied to lie. I am ashamed.

I answer them with "well, that was then, and this is now. I am not happy with how I presented myself, and am extremely embarrassed. If you would stop reminding of all that I would appreciate it."

I have also had people tell me (non alcoholics that know I am an alcoholic) say such things as, "mayble all the alcohol you imbibed messed up your head a little" That really pisses me off.

Dee74

I've had few people try it on - it happened less and less as the years went on, Zee

Itchy

Hey good question! If they are doing that, tell them sorry and that you will stay away from now on, and drop them. If they try to get the relationship going again on their terms tell them you already dropped them, don't they remember that?

I'll have 2 years in a few months and my brain cells are never going to be back to previous levels thank God! Under the influence they sank to some low lows.

I can't remember the last time I forgot something!

CaiHong

Family members would ask me for favors when I had been drinking. That in retrospect is so devious. Most of the time if I had considered the favors in the sober light of day I would never had said yes.
Today my decisions are sober and therefore better considered.
caiHong

Zee

You are right... I was being optimistic!

I must not dwell on the past!

I didn't like who I was AT ALL! Its my own fault really. All I can keep on doing is to continue moving forward! ... SOBER!