EveningRose

I think I've mentioned here before (in fact, I wrote a whole thread on it at the time it happened!) the issue of my father calling me, demanding I do such and such, threatening to make trouble for me at work if I didn't, and leaving a dozen voicemails telling me he's a better parent than me, I'm a troublemaker, and finally calling me an a**hole.

For some reason, as this drifted through my mind today, for the first time, I was not hurt and angry on my own behalf, but could only think of my grandmother dying still saying ugly things about the people closest to her, even in her dying breath, even as she was practically face to face with her Maker.

And my thought was sorry and pity for my father. I don't even know if it's been a year and a half or two and a half years. But I thought what a tragedy and wasted life if he goes to his death bed, and his last words to one of his children is to call her an a**hole.

I felt sorry for him.

DesertEyes

Wow, EveningRose, that is awesome healing. Thank you so much for sharing that. I remember when I first felt sorry towards my parents, instead of angry, and it was incredibly liberating.

Congratulations on working your recovery so well.

Mike

EveningRose

For maybe 8-12 months now, I have often felt sorry for them, but more so my mother, who has wasted her life in bitterness and anger...but this is the first time in relation to this particular inicident, and possibly the first time in relation to my father.

cb12

Thanks for sharing. I am looking forward to that day in my own journey.

dollydo

Appreciate your sharing, I am heading in that direction with my mother.

EveningRose

I'm glad to hear that, Dolly. It's freeing, step by step. I hope one day to feel that way all the time about all my family members. It's coming, bit by bit.