57 Days
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57 Days
I am 57 days into my sobriety after my relapse and have actually been doing really well for the most part. However, my husband and I are going out to dinner with another couple tonight, and I haven't gotten out except for going to meetings and recovery related activities. I'm really nervous. These people were my biggest drinking buddies. They know I'm sober and are very understanding, but I know they, along with my husband, will be drinking at dinner tonight. I would not go, but I have begged off on so many social activities in my sobriety out of fear and it is affecting my marriage. Ideally I would go, enjoy myself and stay confident and strong in my sobriety. I guess I could just use some encouragement or pointers on how to make the best of this situation if at all possible? Thank you in advance for all your help! I'm almost at 60 days and I really do want this sobriety thing more than anything
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Well done on 57 days Eliasson!
It's good that you're nervous, it's when we're complacent that slips happen.
It's not nice being around people drinking when you're not comfortable with it. But it will get better as you get more confidence. Drinking lots of soda water will help keep the thirst away, maybe grit your teeth a bit
You can do this!
Let us know how you get on xxx
It's good that you're nervous, it's when we're complacent that slips happen.
It's not nice being around people drinking when you're not comfortable with it. But it will get better as you get more confidence. Drinking lots of soda water will help keep the thirst away, maybe grit your teeth a bit
You can do this!
Let us know how you get on xxx
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Join Date: Apr 2012
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Hello Eliasson.
You have stayed sober for fifty seven days! don't ruin it!.You said your friends and husband know you do not drink now. Believe in yourself and remember that your first priority over everything is not to drink, remember that you are amongst people that love you (husband) and respect you (friends), You are in good company and ther is no reason to drink. Think higher and change your perspective and reasoning
You have stayed sober for fifty seven days! don't ruin it!.You said your friends and husband know you do not drink now. Believe in yourself and remember that your first priority over everything is not to drink, remember that you are amongst people that love you (husband) and respect you (friends), You are in good company and ther is no reason to drink. Think higher and change your perspective and reasoning
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Thank you! I'm back home and I made it thru without drinking! I prayed first, ordered tea, and brought my own car just in case. It wasn't too bad, but I DID leave early as they started stepping up their drinking after the food was gone. It made me sad to leave my husband there but I did the right thing and kept my sobriety my priority! Yay! So grateful for my sobriety and my SR family!
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Originally Posted by Eliasson 
Thank you! I'm back home and I made it thru without drinking! I prayed first, ordered tea, and brought my own car just in case. It wasn't too bad, but I DID leave early as they started stepping up their drinking after the food was gone. It made me sad to leave my husband there but I did the right thing and kept my sobriety my priority! Yay! So grateful for my sobriety and my SR family!
I dodged a couple events like that myself. I went, it was cool, started to get a little hot under the collar, and I left. ......then it started to occur to me, I better get this "recoverED" deal or maybe one of the days something like this will take me down.
Keep working on going through the steps.....follow that path.......and you'll be good to go.
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