A fridge full of cider!
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A fridge full of cider!
Well if this isn't a test I don't know what is!!!
After husbands drunken binge over the weekend, he has now packed the fridge full of cider that was left over.
When I say packed, I mean packed, had a hard job finding the butter this morning.
If this wasn't so tragic, it would be funny!!
I'm a recovering alcoholic for F's sake!
Just shaking my head in disbelief and heading off to work!
After husbands drunken binge over the weekend, he has now packed the fridge full of cider that was left over.
When I say packed, I mean packed, had a hard job finding the butter this morning.
If this wasn't so tragic, it would be funny!!
I'm a recovering alcoholic for F's sake!
Just shaking my head in disbelief and heading off to work!
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There will always be tests given to us! Resist & it will make you stronger!
Maybe possible to suggest a different fridge/cooler to store his cider? I would hate to have to stare at it every day! After I relapsed recently, my husband, God love him, cleared the alcohol out that I had bought while I was passed out. A little pissed when I went to look for it the next day, but thankful as well, as i'm wanting sobriety...its just hard.
Maybe in time your hub will understand...in the meantime, stay strong!
Maybe possible to suggest a different fridge/cooler to store his cider? I would hate to have to stare at it every day! After I relapsed recently, my husband, God love him, cleared the alcohol out that I had bought while I was passed out. A little pissed when I went to look for it the next day, but thankful as well, as i'm wanting sobriety...its just hard.
Maybe in time your hub will understand...in the meantime, stay strong!
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That sucks. Is there any way you can tell him not to leave it around? I feel rock solid in my sobriety now at 13 months, but I still can never have alcohol in the house or I will end up drinking it eventually.
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Because I consider it to be my own stupid fault that I'm a recovering alkie, I've insisted that no one around me behaves any differently. It's like: carry on as you where, everyone, don't mind me, I'm sitting this one out. Certainly it makes thing harder to see booze in the fridge, but like I say, that's tough cheddar. Got to bite the bullet.
So the fridge full of beer would indeed be a test of my resolve as a drinker, but I'd also be secretly pleased that what is essentially 'my problem' wasn't impacting anyone else. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I think I'd be annoyed if things did change. Other opinions may vary, of course.
So the fridge full of beer would indeed be a test of my resolve as a drinker, but I'd also be secretly pleased that what is essentially 'my problem' wasn't impacting anyone else. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I think I'd be annoyed if things did change. Other opinions may vary, of course.
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Originally Posted by MarkstheSpot 
Because I consider it to be my own stupid fault that I'm a recovering alkie, I've insisted that no one around me behaves any differently. It's like: carry on as you where, everyone, don't mind me, I'm sitting this one out. Certainly it makes thing harder to see booze in the fridge, but like I say, that's tough cheddar. Got to bite the bullet.
So the fridge full of beer would indeed be a test of my resolve as a drinker, but I'd also be secretly pleased that what is essentially 'my problem' wasn't impacting anyone else. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I think I'd be annoyed if things did change. Other opinions may vary, of course.
So the fridge full of beer would indeed be a test of my resolve as a drinker, but I'd also be secretly pleased that what is essentially 'my problem' wasn't impacting anyone else. In fact, I'd go as far as to say that I think I'd be annoyed if things did change. Other opinions may vary, of course.
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I posted yesterday on this subject but jstar said what I was going to say.
Your husband is going to have to make some sacrifices if he loves you and respects your decision to quit drinking.
After I relapsed recently, my husband, God love him, cleared the alcohol out that I had bought while I was passed out.
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Thanks everyone.
There's part of me that suspects its deliberate because he would prefer me to go back to the way I was.
For him, life was simpler and we did have some fun drunk times. We never argued, and he certainly didn't have cause to question his own drinking when for the most part, I was worse than him!
He has conveniently forgotten that I was becoming less and less able to handle it, was p*ssed the whole weekend, shaking, being ill, and never remembered the events of the previous evening. I've ended up in hospital for injuries that occurred falling over and was starting to take days off work.
Well, he may have forgotten, or be choosing to forget, but I haven't.
In a way I'm finding a kind of strength in his actions. He may want me back the way I was, but I'm never going there again. It is making my resolve even stronger.
There's part of me that suspects its deliberate because he would prefer me to go back to the way I was.
For him, life was simpler and we did have some fun drunk times. We never argued, and he certainly didn't have cause to question his own drinking when for the most part, I was worse than him!
He has conveniently forgotten that I was becoming less and less able to handle it, was p*ssed the whole weekend, shaking, being ill, and never remembered the events of the previous evening. I've ended up in hospital for injuries that occurred falling over and was starting to take days off work.
Well, he may have forgotten, or be choosing to forget, but I haven't.
In a way I'm finding a kind of strength in his actions. He may want me back the way I was, but I'm never going there again. It is making my resolve even stronger.
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Just asked him if he could remove the cans, and he just laughed and asked if it would be any better if I came across them in a cupboard! He said it wouldn't matter where they were, if I wanted to drink them I would. Fair point I suppose. He also pointed out that there has been a bottle of red wine in the rack the whole time I've been sober and that hasn't tempted me.
Suppose he's right.
Guess I'm also aware that at some point he will drink them and get drunk, so they are not merely a temptation for me, but also a warning that this weekend will probably not be a great one.
Suppose he's right.
Guess I'm also aware that at some point he will drink them and get drunk, so they are not merely a temptation for me, but also a warning that this weekend will probably not be a great one.
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Most of my relapses came about when I went out to a bar to listen to a band with my BF. I have finally decided that I have to give up going to bars and listening to bands. Something which I truly enjoy doing. I cannot handle the temptation. He used to own a night club and has all of his old left over liquor in the hall closet outside of our apartment. After this last binge, he realized I figured a way to jimmy the door open with a butter knife and drink the booze. Needless to say, he put a pad lock on it. I do have a point here. Although he doesn't understand my alcoholism, he is taking steps to keep me away from booze because I cannot have it around me. AT ALL. I hope you have more strength than I do. It would be too hard this early in my recovery not to relapse if there was booze easily accessible. Kudo's for staying strong. Good luck on the weekend.
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