missing XABF badly
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missing XABF badly
Hi everyone, haven't posted in a while.
I broke up with my xabf about two months ago. Things started getting better, and I finally started to move through the break up. I started a new position at my work, been busy with school, and have even gone on a couple dates with a new guy.
Last week I got really sick with strep throat and tonsilitis. It was terrible and I was basically confined to the couch/bed for almost a week. Well this all reminded me a lot of the first few days after the break up. So it spun me into a mild depression. I've started to really miss my ex. Like miss him alot alot. Things I haven't remembered in years have come back to me. Good memories seem to be the only ones I can think of.
What do I do? I was doing really well, now I seem to be a bit of a mess. Everywhere I look I see something that reminds me of him. It's killing me! Like I keep thinking God will come down, make him sober, and we will be happy together again. How delusional!
Has anyone else experienced this? Like missing the ex-A out of nowhere? How do you deal...? I think of bad things about him, but this only seems to help temporarily. Any input is welcome
I broke up with my xabf about two months ago. Things started getting better, and I finally started to move through the break up. I started a new position at my work, been busy with school, and have even gone on a couple dates with a new guy.
Last week I got really sick with strep throat and tonsilitis. It was terrible and I was basically confined to the couch/bed for almost a week. Well this all reminded me a lot of the first few days after the break up. So it spun me into a mild depression. I've started to really miss my ex. Like miss him alot alot. Things I haven't remembered in years have come back to me. Good memories seem to be the only ones I can think of.
What do I do? I was doing really well, now I seem to be a bit of a mess. Everywhere I look I see something that reminds me of him. It's killing me! Like I keep thinking God will come down, make him sober, and we will be happy together again. How delusional!
Has anyone else experienced this? Like missing the ex-A out of nowhere? How do you deal...? I think of bad things about him, but this only seems to help temporarily. Any input is welcome
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Sometimes, going back and reading your first posts here will help you remember how bad it was and why you wanted so desperately to get out.
I really think that time tends to soften the bad stuff and tend to remember mostly the good times. A healthy dose of reality sometimes will remind us why we worked so hard to get away from that.
I really think that time tends to soften the bad stuff and tend to remember mostly the good times. A healthy dose of reality sometimes will remind us why we worked so hard to get away from that.
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These feelings will keep coming back and forth.. its part of mourning...
You are doing well focusing on your own life!! as long as you keep No contact, let it be and be kind with yourself. Good for you for leaving the XABF, I have been out for 3 years+ already, and I do not regret it. Mourning was difficult and sometimes I do get those memories, or nightmares but its nothing compared to how it was.
Keep moving forward, you can do this!
You are doing well focusing on your own life!! as long as you keep No contact, let it be and be kind with yourself. Good for you for leaving the XABF, I have been out for 3 years+ already, and I do not regret it. Mourning was difficult and sometimes I do get those memories, or nightmares but its nothing compared to how it was.
Keep moving forward, you can do this!
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I sometimes get very depressed when I'm really sick. Just lying in bed for days on end can do that to you! Please know that this will pass...you will feel much better soon, and your outlook will improve!!
I just took a quick look at your first thread here, and the man you describe was both mentally and physically abusive. I hope you know that you deserve much better treatment from a man who truly loves you!
Feel better soon! HG
I just took a quick look at your first thread here, and the man you describe was both mentally and physically abusive. I hope you know that you deserve much better treatment from a man who truly loves you!
Feel better soon! HG
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