One month but a bit stuck
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One month but a bit stuck
Ok so on the face of it I'm doing well.
Had a little stumble in the beginning but am now one complete month without drinking. Go to AA meetings, read regularly on this forum, feeling 100% better in myself and sleeping well.
Why am I beginning to doubt myself?
Don't want to drink but I've kind of got used to where I am now and the changes in me and my lifestyle have slowed up. It was all new and exciting in the beginning but now think I'm in danger of taking it all for granted.
I need to give myself a bit of a kick up the butt I think and move forwards, cos standing still is dangerous....
Had a little stumble in the beginning but am now one complete month without drinking. Go to AA meetings, read regularly on this forum, feeling 100% better in myself and sleeping well.
Why am I beginning to doubt myself?
Don't want to drink but I've kind of got used to where I am now and the changes in me and my lifestyle have slowed up. It was all new and exciting in the beginning but now think I'm in danger of taking it all for granted.
I need to give myself a bit of a kick up the butt I think and move forwards, cos standing still is dangerous....
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Hey and the sun is shining!! First of all, massive congrats on a month 
You've seen how everyone in Class of March has been struggling this week - the novelty is wearing off and we're all looking around, wondering what to do next...
You're right - kick up the butt. What are you going to do today? I'm going to get my ass down to the pebbles for a run (when I can drag myself off this!) then eat breakfast, clean the flat and have a shower. I've got an observation on Thursday (ugh) so I have to prepare a shiny lesson plan and mark my Y8 books haha. But then the day is mine!
Booze took up most of our time - what are we going to do to fill it now? Come on, all those things you always said you wanted to do but never had the time...
Still
xxx
You've seen how everyone in Class of March has been struggling this week - the novelty is wearing off and we're all looking around, wondering what to do next...
You're right - kick up the butt. What are you going to do today? I'm going to get my ass down to the pebbles for a run (when I can drag myself off this!) then eat breakfast, clean the flat and have a shower. I've got an observation on Thursday (ugh) so I have to prepare a shiny lesson plan and mark my Y8 books haha. But then the day is mine!
Booze took up most of our time - what are we going to do to fill it now? Come on, all those things you always said you wanted to do but never had the time...
Still
xxx
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Yes you're right. I've got a mountain of school work to do,end of year assessments, report writing etc etc. must make a start instead of procrastinating!
Guess it is that the novelty has worn off now. I'm not really struggling like some of our friends who quit at the same time but am just not moving forward.
Think I will do a few hours work then make us all a nice meal tonight.
Life was crazy and unpredictable when drinking, not happy mind you! Maybe I'm just getting used to living without that adrenaline rush and constant state of drama!
I probably need to invest a bit of time in discovering other ways to fill my time that are more healthy!
Guess it is that the novelty has worn off now. I'm not really struggling like some of our friends who quit at the same time but am just not moving forward.
Think I will do a few hours work then make us all a nice meal tonight.
Life was crazy and unpredictable when drinking, not happy mind you! Maybe I'm just getting used to living without that adrenaline rush and constant state of drama!
I probably need to invest a bit of time in discovering other ways to fill my time that are more healthy!
Forward we go...side by side-Rest In Peace
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To move forward...I strongly suggest you get into the AA program which is
about the AA Steps...
Because when I did...I shifted from often shakey sobriety into solid recovery.
Now...I go find a new member to share with...and you can do that too.
Someone needs your help...each one reach one is a vital part of my recovery.
All my best....well done on your sober time...
about the AA Steps...
Because when I did...I shifted from often shakey sobriety into solid recovery.
Now...I go find a new member to share with...and you can do that too.
Someone needs your help...each one reach one is a vital part of my recovery.
All my best....well done on your sober time...
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Hi jeni,
not sure about how your meetings are, but I do know that meetings alone won't get you sober. I have seen many pass through who sat in meetings for a month or two, sometimes more but didn't do much else. Not their fault, often they are not told what needs to be done, they just never realise the serious nature of their situation. So after a while they get bored, restless, irritable and discontent. They've been doing lots of meetings but nothing is really changing - no spiritual awakening. So they leave. Some stay sober, some drink, some comeback, some don't.
Eventually some get to learn that the personality change required to bring about recovery from alcoholism is itself brought about by a spiritual awakening, and that comes from taking the steps. The steps are what brings a lasting and happy recovery. Maybe your flat spot is a call to action on the steps.
not sure about how your meetings are, but I do know that meetings alone won't get you sober. I have seen many pass through who sat in meetings for a month or two, sometimes more but didn't do much else. Not their fault, often they are not told what needs to be done, they just never realise the serious nature of their situation. So after a while they get bored, restless, irritable and discontent. They've been doing lots of meetings but nothing is really changing - no spiritual awakening. So they leave. Some stay sober, some drink, some comeback, some don't.
Eventually some get to learn that the personality change required to bring about recovery from alcoholism is itself brought about by a spiritual awakening, and that comes from taking the steps. The steps are what brings a lasting and happy recovery. Maybe your flat spot is a call to action on the steps.
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Originally Posted by Jeni26 
Why am I beginning to doubt myself?
It was all new and exciting in the beginning but now think I'm in danger of taking it all for granted.
It can be done
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Starting Day 2 of being sober. It's 4:30 in the morning I slept alot of the day yesterday, now I'm wide awoke feelin like crap. My stomach hurts because I need to eat but my appetite hasn't been around for a while .The sun hasn't even come up yet & already things are happening that normally would trigger me to drink. I hope I can do this. The pain I feel right now I know I caused myself & that just makes it feel worse.
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Thank you, yes I do need to move forward with AA or maybe find another path?
I've been going to meetings and they have really helped me get to this point, but I haven't started working through the steps and not even sure where to begin.
I missed a meeting last night as I was having such a lovely evening with my kids I prioritised that, and I read some of the BB to compensate.
I've even started thinking of cutting down on going to meetings now but I don't want to slip, not at all.
I've been given a few phone numbers of women at the meetings, all lovely people and maybe I should ask one of them to sponsor me now.
I'm always like this whatever I do, run headlong into new ventures with enthusiasm then run out of steam and give up!
Thanks for your replies xx
I've been going to meetings and they have really helped me get to this point, but I haven't started working through the steps and not even sure where to begin.
I missed a meeting last night as I was having such a lovely evening with my kids I prioritised that, and I read some of the BB to compensate.
I've even started thinking of cutting down on going to meetings now but I don't want to slip, not at all.
I've been given a few phone numbers of women at the meetings, all lovely people and maybe I should ask one of them to sponsor me now.
I'm always like this whatever I do, run headlong into new ventures with enthusiasm then run out of steam and give up!
Thanks for your replies xx
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Hi Jenny who knows perhaps! I agree it's nice to find someone so similar..
I'm really good today but then I knew I would be, I don't have problems day to day my issue is the every now and then that gets out of control and deceitful.. I'll let you all know when I have that urge!
How was your day? I hope you find something to focus your energy on!
who knows perhaps! I agree it's nice to find someone so similar..I'm really good today but then I knew I would be, I don't have problems day to day my issue is the every now and then that gets out of control and deceitful.. I'll let you all know when I have that urge!
How was your day? I hope you find something to focus your energy on!
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Hey Jeni,
It's only natural that once we start felling better that we think we're okay and can do this alone or god forbid start thinking that we can have the odd drink. I think we all have these thoughts. For me the first few months have been hangover recovery, pure and simple. Now I can start making changes to my life rather than sitting there waiting til I feel better.
I'm sure those AA meetings will keep your steam up. Don't doubt yourself!
Oh, and congratulations on the month! xxx
It's only natural that once we start felling better that we think we're okay and can do this alone or god forbid start thinking that we can have the odd drink. I think we all have these thoughts. For me the first few months have been hangover recovery, pure and simple. Now I can start making changes to my life rather than sitting there waiting til I feel better.
I'm sure those AA meetings will keep your steam up. Don't doubt yourself!
Oh, and congratulations on the month! xxx
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