help me cope
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help me cope
my cousins young daughter died last year with a brain tumour and now his wife collapsed on Saturday with a stroke and it seems she has one too!!! Help me be strong for everyone around me
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Tiggy,
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
Grief takes time for you and the rest of the family. And just because one does not cry does not mean they don't feel it as much as another. Different people have different ways of expressing their grief.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
Feeling sad, frightened, or lonely is a normal reaction to loss. Crying doesn’t mean you are weak. You don’t need to “protect” your family or friends by putting on a brave front. Showing your true feelings can help them and you.
Grief takes time for you and the rest of the family. And just because one does not cry does not mean they don't feel it as much as another. Different people have different ways of expressing their grief.
My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Tracy is now at home, so far so good the surgeons managed to remove all of the tumour we still dont know what sort it is yet. She still has some slurring of her speech and a loss of power in her left arm. fingers crossed that she recovers some more
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It is good news she is home. My grandmother had breast cancer 2 years ago, the worst stage. The doctors removed all of the tumor but she still had to go through radiation. She has gotten lots better. Hopefully the same goes for your family. Remember to stay strong for everyone around you! <3
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Well wishes your way Tiggy. Life throws a lot of hardship our way but none of it is an excuse to drink. Remember, an excuse, no matter how justified it may seem, is still an excuse. I wish you and your family peace during these trying times.
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I am so sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time... Good for you for staying strong and asking for a little bit of help along the way! I hope to hear all is better for you soon!
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bad news I'm afraid, Tracy has the same sort of tumour as her lovely daughter Rosie died with last year. We are all devastated there is a possibility she will not be with us for Christmas. Life can be very cruel. Ive had sucha dreadful few weeks, first a lady died at work my freinds son was killed in Afganistan and now this. If I can get through this without a drink I need a medal
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I'm sorry to hear that Tiggy...All you can do is keep praying for her....God's will be done. Just remain strong for yourself and your family. Drinking won't make any of this any better. I think you deserve more than a medal...That you deserve a beautiful life. Keep doing what you're doing...I think you'll find that.
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poor Tracy is now in a very bad way, we are all shocked at how quickly things have progressed. This sounds terrible but I hope it is over for her sooner than later, her daughter was in terrible pain at the end and thats what frightens her
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