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For real now
Hi Everyone,
I've just joined this forum and would like to introduce myself. I am a 41 year old lady who has 'enjoyed' drinking consistently and with great enthusiasm for the last 25 years or so. I've tried spells of abstaining from alcohol for a month here or there and also moderating (HA HA!!) and have woken up this morning vowing to finally finally finally quit. I'm tired of the depression and anxiety and all the problems associated with getting drunk, worried about my health and worried about setting a very poor example to my two beautiful children and also sabotaging my relationship with their father and my husband. I am hungover but I'm also really relieved that the decision has been made now (lots of work to do now though!). Have told my mum, husband and a supportive friend, who thought it was a good idea. There's a couple of problems though, the main one is my husband is a winemaker and we run a small winery (family business). Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!
I've just joined this forum and would like to introduce myself. I am a 41 year old lady who has 'enjoyed' drinking consistently and with great enthusiasm for the last 25 years or so. I've tried spells of abstaining from alcohol for a month here or there and also moderating (HA HA!!) and have woken up this morning vowing to finally finally finally quit. I'm tired of the depression and anxiety and all the problems associated with getting drunk, worried about my health and worried about setting a very poor example to my two beautiful children and also sabotaging my relationship with their father and my husband. I am hungover but I'm also really relieved that the decision has been made now (lots of work to do now though!). Have told my mum, husband and a supportive friend, who thought it was a good idea. There's a couple of problems though, the main one is my husband is a winemaker and we run a small winery (family business). Thanks for reading if you've made it this far!
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Welcome donenow 
I know you'll find support and encouragement here - the winery may make it hard initially but I really believe once you accept that alcohol is toxic to you and you commit to the decision to stop, it won't matter as much to you
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I know you'll find support and encouragement here - the winery may make it hard initially but I really believe once you accept that alcohol is toxic to you and you commit to the decision to stop, it won't matter as much to you
D
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Welcome Donenow,
Your post reminded me back in Feb I celebrated 32 years continuous sobriety with a German chap, also 32 years, also called Mike. He got sober while at university gaining a degree in the beer brewing industry. He graduated and carried on in his career as a brewer, no problem. He treated the job as chemistry, and like any sane chemist he had no desire to consume toxic chemicals. Like me, he also went to AA and followed the suggestions. Now he has a beautiful orchard in one of the best parts of our country. I met him while sailing my yacht around the coast, stopping at a port and visiting the local AA group. Both of us got a pretty good life out of AA.
Your post reminded me back in Feb I celebrated 32 years continuous sobriety with a German chap, also 32 years, also called Mike. He got sober while at university gaining a degree in the beer brewing industry. He graduated and carried on in his career as a brewer, no problem. He treated the job as chemistry, and like any sane chemist he had no desire to consume toxic chemicals. Like me, he also went to AA and followed the suggestions. Now he has a beautiful orchard in one of the best parts of our country. I met him while sailing my yacht around the coast, stopping at a port and visiting the local AA group. Both of us got a pretty good life out of AA.
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Join Date: Mar 2012
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Hello Done now.
I can relate to how you feel exactly. I used to make my own wine, cider etc. Also used to buy wine by the bucketful.
I did give away all my wine making stuff a few weeks ago when I decided to give up the booze.
After a few stumbles along the way I am on Day 6 today.
I don't really know how you are going to deal with the winemaking aspect of it, but just think of it as a job to bring in a few pounds.
Good Luck!
I can relate to how you feel exactly. I used to make my own wine, cider etc. Also used to buy wine by the bucketful.
I did give away all my wine making stuff a few weeks ago when I decided to give up the booze.
After a few stumbles along the way I am on Day 6 today.
I don't really know how you are going to deal with the winemaking aspect of it, but just think of it as a job to bring in a few pounds.
Good Luck!
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Welcome to SR donenow
I'm newly sober and most of my social activities take place in pubs (music not drinking). It is hard to just carry on as normal and not drink so I had to cut a few things out for a while til I felt stronger and I'm starting to reintroduce them slowly. What's your involvement in the wine business? Can you just avoid it for a bit?
Glad you're here x
I'm newly sober and most of my social activities take place in pubs (music not drinking). It is hard to just carry on as normal and not drink so I had to cut a few things out for a while til I felt stronger and I'm starting to reintroduce them slowly. What's your involvement in the wine business? Can you just avoid it for a bit?
Glad you're here x
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Join Date: Mar 2012
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Congrats, donenow. I've just posted in your other thread, actually. I hope you are able to embrace your sobriety with as much enthusiasm as I have done.
The winery thing I can imagine being a bit of a pain on just about every level; hopefully you'll be able to turn it to your advantage, specialise in another area of the business, make a joke of it, spearhead a new non-alcohol range or something.
The winery thing I can imagine being a bit of a pain on just about every level; hopefully you'll be able to turn it to your advantage, specialise in another area of the business, make a joke of it, spearhead a new non-alcohol range or something.
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Join Date: Jan 2012
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Congratulations donenow. I can see that owning a winery may be a problem, but if you want to overcome drink you can do it.
Alcohol is hurting you, and there is no reason to keep imbibing poison. You wouldnt drink petrol if you worked at a petrol station would you?
Alcohol is hurting you, and there is no reason to keep imbibing poison. You wouldnt drink petrol if you worked at a petrol station would you?
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It's never easy at first but you know where you need to be for everyone.
Firstly yet some pride in your early days. It really works.
John.
As far as the winery goes alcohol is everywhere. You just have to find something else to replace your drink.
Firstly yet some pride in your early days. It really works.
John.
As far as the winery goes alcohol is everywhere. You just have to find something else to replace your drink.
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