coming_clean

My ethics will determine my sobriety so...
This is about recovery.

please OBJECTIVE advice.

Situation:

What if a man 'insults' ME, a friend of her, who has kissed her when she was drunk (she aint a alcoholic) once.

After several years, he suddenly starts talking to her, everyday,

then he starts her telling my poetry is wack, and she doesn't stick up for me. No she's ignores it, but tells me I can't get angry over this. And she makes sure MY reactions are removed, however his stay visible for everyone to see.

I know this is online and stuff...but this is the new reality,
People show their true face online.

I'm not upset, about.....her....losing her so much....
I was defending myself once more like Im the crazy person.
Been there done that.

My instincts scream this is not healthy!!!!!!
Danger danger danger danger.
However. I could be wrong.....

But I never been so far.
I'd radther cut it off now, then in a future with more mutual losses.

RainyDayWoman1

I don`t quite understand - but it sounds like this friend of yours wants your gf - and she isn`t resisting much?

Sapling

How's your recovery coming along?

soberlicious

Listen to your instincts.

coming_clean

it's about THIS.....

Leonard Cohen - Night Comes On.flv - YouTube

coming_clean

the being sober part is good. Not a biggie...

The moralistics and such...harder....
getting there...bit by bit.,

coming_clean

no...
it's about her being possibly 'blind'

in a world it sometimes seems i'm the only one who has sight.

still we're having dialogue tough.

so...we'll see...

I'll ban her without much feelings or problems...

this is about my apperently twisted sense of reality...

that's always been like this, as a kid, teenager, grown up

while dozens of shrinks and tests and stuff indicate i'm perfectly sane.

Jersey Nonny

I sometimes get the impression this site is confused with Advice To The Lovelorn

Seriously, you say

Quote:

the being sober part is good. Not a biggie...

But, my concern would be how long you've been continuously sober and would it be long enough so that your sobriety wouldn't be affected by a relationship? Also, do you have a good sponsor (of the same sex) with whom you could discuss personal issues?

Dee74

To be honest I'm not sure I get the specifics of the situation here....but I'd be wary of thinking stuff like you're the only one who can see in a world of blind people cc...

take it from experience...I think we're all blind in our own ways....I gave up knowing what was best for other people.

I'm much happier that way and other people are too

I'm with the others too on the emotions thing - early recovery, when we're learning to feel again and live life fully again, is a rollercoaster - you will experience a lot of uncomfortable emotions - it's easy to get lost in the emotion and caught up in drama - it can almost be like another addiction....

don't lose sight of your recovery in all this, man...it's like the axle the wheel runs off, y'know?

D

coming_clean

thank you all for teaching me compassion.