Marlie

I haven't posted in a long time. I am happy to say that my daughter has been sober for a couple of years. My daughter tried a little of everything during her teenage years, saw that she had a problem, and checked herself into rehab at 17 and again at 19. It wasn't easy and there was some back- sliding and I patiently waited knowing that back-sliding is part of the recovery process. With the help of this forum, and a great psychiatrist she and I are doing great. I didn't manage things the conventional way. I actually didn't manage her recovery at all. It was all her. I just got to watch and tell her that when she needed help to come to me, that I would get her the help that she needed when she was ready. I told her I couldn't do anything if she didn't want to change. One night she came to me and said she was done and needed help. It wasn't easy but she did it and I am very proud. She has finished school and even quit smoking. I never thought she would quit smoking.

It is hard to relax though, and I appreciate what everyone goes through when you love someone who is addicted. The addict has triggers but so does one who loves an addict. I still cringe when she is out at night, wondering if she is slipping back into old ways. Certain things trigger the worry and concern. I don't worry as much, knowing that it is not my problem to fix but it so hard not to worry about someone whom you love.

I never thought parenting and watching a child make dreadful mistakes would be so hard. It was the hardest thing I have ever done. I just hope that it is all over and I can finally relax.

Kindeyes

It's always great to hear when things are going well. Thank you for sharing.

You and your dear daughter will be in my prayers.

gentle hugs
ke