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need letter
Who ever brought that letter, the one where the drug is talking to the user, could you send it to me please. It really seem to help me to under stand what my huand [Joe] is going thru. Dont have a printer, lucky to have internet.
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Hi Jolinda - I think the letter you may be referring to is in the sticky notes above. 
Also I don't know what your husbands DOC (drug of choice) is but I found this site insightful and the blurb at the end of this link: Thoughts and Observations
You may also want to peruse the addiction forums above this one but the most important thing is for you to understand yourself, your triggers and your behaviors.
It's time for you to take good care of you!!
Big hugs!!
Also I don't know what your husbands DOC (drug of choice) is but I found this site insightful and the blurb at the end of this link: Thoughts and Observations
You may also want to peruse the addiction forums above this one but the most important thing is for you to understand yourself, your triggers and your behaviors.
It's time for you to take good care of you!!
Big hugs!!
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Here is the sticky:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ddicts-do.html
And here is Jon's letter:
Hope that is what you are looking for.
Love and hugs,
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ddicts-do.html
And here is Jon's letter:
What Addicts Do
My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is my needs and how to go about fufilling them. You are a tool to me, something to use. When I say I love you I am lying through my teeth, because love is impossible for someone in active addiction. I wouldn't be using if I loved myself, and since I don't, I cannot love you.
My feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my drugs that I could be considered sociopathic. I have no empathy for you or anyone else. It doesn't faze me that I hurt you, leave you hungry, lie to you, cheat on you and steal from you.
My behavior cannot and will not change until i make a decison to stop using/drinking and then follow it up with a plan of action.
And until I make that decsion, I will hurt you again and again and again.
Stop being surprised.
I am an addict. And that's what addicts do.
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Have A Great 24
-jon
My name's Jon. I'm an addict. And this is what addicts do. You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat you better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is my needs and how to go about fufilling them. You are a tool to me, something to use. When I say I love you I am lying through my teeth, because love is impossible for someone in active addiction. I wouldn't be using if I loved myself, and since I don't, I cannot love you.
My feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my drugs that I could be considered sociopathic. I have no empathy for you or anyone else. It doesn't faze me that I hurt you, leave you hungry, lie to you, cheat on you and steal from you.
My behavior cannot and will not change until i make a decison to stop using/drinking and then follow it up with a plan of action.
And until I make that decsion, I will hurt you again and again and again.
Stop being surprised.
I am an addict. And that's what addicts do.
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Have A Great 24
-jon
Love and hugs,
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Do you mean "a letter from your addiction"?
Here's the link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...addiction.html
Here's the link:
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...addiction.html
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The link to the letter that Pock provided above... I have never read it until right now and it just scared the crap out of me... for myself!
I know a year ago I would have been super upset and concerned about my AH being the subject matter and would do ANYTHING (even sacrificing myself) to try to not make all that happen to him.
I'm thanking God today that I can now read this letter and put myself as the subject matter... that if I continued down this path with my AH as my drug, I could see myself going insane, lying (to friends, family), being shameful and it finally killing me (stress) because I can't control the uncontrollable.
Jolinda, you will get to a peaceful place some day for yourself. You will. Keep posting and venting and questioning and wondering - never stop that and I'll bet you bottom dollar, if your AH keeps his crap going (which I sincerely hope not), you will finally have enough. As to when that will happen, only you and your innards know... but I hope it comes sooner than later for you.
Take care,
I know a year ago I would have been super upset and concerned about my AH being the subject matter and would do ANYTHING (even sacrificing myself) to try to not make all that happen to him.
I'm thanking God today that I can now read this letter and put myself as the subject matter... that if I continued down this path with my AH as my drug, I could see myself going insane, lying (to friends, family), being shameful and it finally killing me (stress) because I can't control the uncontrollable.
Jolinda, you will get to a peaceful place some day for yourself. You will. Keep posting and venting and questioning and wondering - never stop that and I'll bet you bottom dollar, if your AH keeps his crap going (which I sincerely hope not), you will finally have enough. As to when that will happen, only you and your innards know... but I hope it comes sooner than later for you.
Take care,
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