Hiding
If you are lost, stand still
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Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: James Island, SC
Posts: 159
Hiding
I've spent my whole life trying to prove to myself and to everyone else that I fear nothing, and that nothing can hurt me. I've run marathons, moved to an unfamiliar town alone, and walked into the middle of a domestic fight wielding a can of mace. (I didn't say I was smart about it...)
Today for the first time ever, a friend who doesn't even know my story made an observation based on some of my responses to everyday life in general: "I know you're afraid."
It came from empathy - he knew there was something I haven't moved on from yet.
It felt like a punch deep in my gut, and a warm light embracing me all at once.
To be seen that way was both terrifying, and a release from the exhausting job of constantly hiding inside myself.
I haven't been to an ACoA meeting in about a year. I'm going back Monday.
Today for the first time ever, a friend who doesn't even know my story made an observation based on some of my responses to everyday life in general: "I know you're afraid."
It came from empathy - he knew there was something I haven't moved on from yet.
It felt like a punch deep in my gut, and a warm light embracing me all at once.
To be seen that way was both terrifying, and a release from the exhausting job of constantly hiding inside myself.
I haven't been to an ACoA meeting in about a year. I'm going back Monday.
If you are lost, stand still
Thread Starter
Join Date: Feb 2008
Location: James Island, SC
Posts: 159
Thank you, Kialua.
I am hopeful for this meeting as it is new to the area, and they are actually WORKING the steps (and still on #1) - not just sitting around venting like the only other one in town.
I just browsed through your blog posts - very insightful and well-written
I am hopeful for this meeting as it is new to the area, and they are actually WORKING the steps (and still on #1) - not just sitting around venting like the only other one in town.
I just browsed through your blog posts - very insightful and well-written
Thanks it's been very healing to finally write down some of it, whether my family sees it or not. I used to think it was important for them to see it and fall down weeping, apologizing and ta da happy ending. ha ha. I know that is not going to happen and I'm ok with it.
I found reading through the blogs and old posts really helped me. I haven't really worked the steps myself, that is really hard. We had some other posters here recently work through the first couple steps and had a lot of success.
I found reading through the blogs and old posts really helped me. I haven't really worked the steps myself, that is really hard. We had some other posters here recently work through the first couple steps and had a lot of success.
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