cricket123

After 4 counseling sessions I think we have made small progress. However, with each session RAH has had a comment about either my being mental (said I was bipolar) or not remembering something (He wants dates and time and what I give him does not fit his recall)and I that am just attacking him. He is just recovering and does not remember what happened (surprise) and has his own version of events and puts several things into one timeframe and does not remember things. So my frustrations come from having to tell him yes this did happen but then I get the "I think you are painting me in a wrong way" response. (Sigh)

Even though some progress has been made I find this frustrating due to the fact that we are there to work things out. I guess my question would be is this part of the recovery process or does he just want me to have more issues then he has and does not like it that I do not?

Cricket

I am a normal person in an insane situation

naive

probably more blame shifting.

mine could not recall events correctly either and was always saying that i was mistaken. he actually had me questioning myself.

what i did was i kept an on-line journal of events. each day, i quickly wrote what had happened that day, how much money he spent, what lies he said, how many drinks, etc.

i kept this faithfully for 6 months. then, when he started questioning dates, events, etc., i just merely looked it up in my journal.

what transpired was that my memory was correct 100% of the time and his was erroneous.

this went a long way in restoring my faith in myself and my recollection of things.

naive