Sponsor and meetings
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Join Date: Feb 2012
Location: Somewhere in Canada
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Sponsor and meetings
Do you have to attend meetings to have a sponsor? There is someone that is close to my family who asked if I wanted them to be my sponsor, if I chose not to attend meetings (not saying I won't) can I still have a sponsor? This person said that I don't have to attend but a few others told me that I do. This is all so confusing.
Its_me_jen
Join Date: May 2004
Location: Salina, Ks
Posts: 8,547
There is not rule on that by AA standards. If someone is willing to sponsor you and says they don't mind if you don't go to meetings then that's their choice and it's ok.
I sponsored someone who went to almost no meetings. May be one a month. It didn't work out with us, not because of her lack of meetings but her lack of honesty.
I prefer my sponsees go to meetings .... because I know how much I get out of them and how much I learn about the steps and the program. There are a ton of benefits from meetings.
Ultimately though, the program is the steps .... so technically yes..... so long as your sponsor is ok with it. Most people I know that sponsor would prefer you attend meetings though.
If you're willing to work the steps with a sponsor why not go to meetings or at least give it a shot?
I sponsored someone who went to almost no meetings. May be one a month. It didn't work out with us, not because of her lack of meetings but her lack of honesty.
I prefer my sponsees go to meetings .... because I know how much I get out of them and how much I learn about the steps and the program. There are a ton of benefits from meetings.
Ultimately though, the program is the steps .... so technically yes..... so long as your sponsor is ok with it. Most people I know that sponsor would prefer you attend meetings though.
If you're willing to work the steps with a sponsor why not go to meetings or at least give it a shot?
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get
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chiyo, does this person have long, good sobriety that you admire? Do you want to bond with and trust this person with your life? Is this person a woman?
Usually friends/family don't make good sponsors. If you choose not to attend meetings it will work about as well as an education when you choose not to go to school.
Wishing you the best. If you need numbers or names, just let me know.
Bob R
Usually friends/family don't make good sponsors. If you choose not to attend meetings it will work about as well as an education when you choose not to go to school.
Wishing you the best. If you need numbers or names, just let me know.
Bob R
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