You know when you look at an EX and say.....
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You know when you look at an EX and say.....
what the hell was I doing there!!!! Why was I with that useless, self centrered, nasty, disgusting person.
That person that I once loved so much, I look at now and feel nothing but repulsion.
That's how I want to feel about drink and I know one day I will. I have to fall out of love with it first.
That person that I once loved so much, I look at now and feel nothing but repulsion.
That's how I want to feel about drink and I know one day I will. I have to fall out of love with it first.
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Nice. Booze is like the abuse cycle, right? We wouldn't love it if it didn't, just every now and then, throw the perfect night at us. You know, that perfect, high-as-a-kite and not even a hangover to show for it night, that re-affirms the belief that it's not the booze that's the problem, we're the problem, and we just have to figure out how to treat booze right and we can have the perfect relationship.
Damn!!
Is it raining there? It's pssng it down here...
Damn!!
Is it raining there? It's pssng it down here...
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Hehe! Am currently battling it out with a friend from Manchester over who has the best town... I knew it was me 
Bloody horrible today tho like anywhere in the rain. Day one for me, am staying online most of the day I reckon...
xxx
Bloody horrible today tho like anywhere in the rain. Day one for me, am staying online most of the day I reckon...xxx
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Well this is the best place to be. I'm on Day 4, should be 22 but slipped last week, I really enjoy this group and trying to stay aay from all my drinking "friends" so am spending a lot of time in here.
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Originally Posted by Sharzy 
Well this is the best place to be... so am spending a lot of time in here.
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Yes, I had one relationship like that. And I realized that even though he was a pig I was was lying right there in the sh!t next to him. Ugh! Gross! lol I woke up and ditched him quick, kinda like I've done to the alcohol too - bye bye suckers!
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Originally Posted by stillsleeping
Nice. Booze is like the abuse cycle, right? We wouldn't love it if it didn't, just every now and then, throw the perfect night at us. You know, that perfect, high-as-a-kite and not even a hangover to show for it night, that re-affirms the belief that it's not the booze that's the problem, we're the problem, and we just have to figure out how to treat booze right and we can have the perfect relationship.
It's pouring here too btw! And I have to go outside and work!
Good luck all hang in there it gets better!
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You may not get there Sharzy.....but that's ok too.
For me, I don't look at booze as an evil thing or even a bad thing. It's just a thing that, I CAN'T use successfully. Many more ppl than most CAN use it successfully. They're able to enjoy a drink or two, get relaxed, enjoy the relaxing of some inhibitions, and that's that. For me, the relationship is altogether different. I think that speaks more about me than it does the booze.
I enjoyed alcohols for a long time.... and I enjoyed my ex-wife for a long time. Things changed and the joy either left or was no longer worth the inherent cost. What I WAS doing was enjoying it while it was enjoyable. I'm different now...I've changed....and I'm better off without both the booze............. AND her....lol.
For me, I don't look at booze as an evil thing or even a bad thing. It's just a thing that, I CAN'T use successfully. Many more ppl than most CAN use it successfully. They're able to enjoy a drink or two, get relaxed, enjoy the relaxing of some inhibitions, and that's that. For me, the relationship is altogether different. I think that speaks more about me than it does the booze.
I enjoyed alcohols for a long time.... and I enjoyed my ex-wife for a long time. Things changed and the joy either left or was no longer worth the inherent cost. What I WAS doing was enjoying it while it was enjoyable. I'm different now...I've changed....and I'm better off without both the booze............. AND her....lol.
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It's a good analogy.
At one time it did a lot for me. It made me feel good, fearless, confident. That's why I held it so dear and relied on it to help me cope with things I couldn't do on my own.
Then, one day it stopped doing that. I kept trying, but the love was gone.
At one time it did a lot for me. It made me feel good, fearless, confident. That's why I held it so dear and relied on it to help me cope with things I couldn't do on my own.
Then, one day it stopped doing that. I kept trying, but the love was gone.
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Originally Posted by Sharzy
That's how I want to feel about drink and I know one day I will. I have to fall out of love with it first.
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I like the analogy but disagree with having to fall out of love.
I was once married to an alcoholic, whose physically abusive actions towards me escalated as his disease progressed. I still loved him madly when I left . . . but I ran like h3ll anyway. For me, it was a matter of how much abuse/beatings/pain I was willing to take before I said "ENOUGH!"
Alcohol did the same thing – it just took me longer to figure that one out.
And yes, any relationship is hard to end.
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I was once married to an alcoholic, whose physically abusive actions towards me escalated as his disease progressed. I still loved him madly when I left . . . but I ran like h3ll anyway. For me, it was a matter of how much abuse/beatings/pain I was willing to take before I said "ENOUGH!"
Alcohol did the same thing – it just took me longer to figure that one out.
And yes, any relationship is hard to end.
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Originally Posted by instant
drinking to satisfaction without a hangover- you are kidding right? (LOL)
No no no no! Bad Still. No booze for you...
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