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Cheating on my wife, yet we are still together

Old 02-14-2012, 04:32 AM
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Cheating on my wife, yet we are still together

It's Valentines Day and I'm grateful that I'm still married to the woman I proposed to many years ago. For many years I thought I was a good husband, than it occured to me that I wasn't.

You see, I cheated on my wife. I didn't quite realize it at the time, it really was an insidious kind of thing. But at some point I cheated on my wife with another lover, and her name was alcohol. At first, we would meet secretly and share experiences just between the two of us. It was fun and exciting and we kept our little relationship secret from my wife. I would spend alot of money on her, which I also managed to keep hidden from my wife. I really fell for her and begin to spend more and more time with her. She was always available, and always willing to comfort when I was down or help me to celebrate when times were good. I must have really fallen for her because I would do crazy stuff when I was with her, stuff I would never do when it was just me and my wife.

Eventually the realationship changed and I realized that I was on the receiving end in an abusive relationship. Man, this alcohol woman turned out to be a real bitch! Then my my wife caught me in my affair with alcohol, and her world was rocked. I felt guilt and shame for what had happened. And despite the fact that my relationship with Ms. Alcohol was toxic, she kept wanting to hang on to me and be a part of my life. I've finally managed to get this bitch out of my life, but now I have the creepy feeling that she might be stalking me. I think I'm always going to be looking out for her.

Anyway, my affair with alcohol is over (at least I pray everyday that it is). And fortunately my wife, the woman I have always cared about, is still with me on Valentines day. For that I am blessed.
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Old 02-14-2012, 04:38 AM
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What an excellent post, Zebra, and very, very insightful. Your wife sounds like a wonderful woman.

Wishing the both of you a very Happy Valentine's Day!
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wow

I love it. Happy Valentine's Day!!!
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Wonderful post. Happy Valentine's Day.
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Old 02-14-2012, 06:01 AM
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Very cool. We are blessed our spouses have stuck by our side through thick & thin! That's unconditional love my friend!
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Old 02-14-2012, 06:07 AM
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Good post, Zebra!

I'm one of the lucky ones, too.
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:11 AM
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Amazing post, couldn't have said it better myself. My ex actually thought I was cheating because of my closet alcohol problem and the time I spent with it. Consider yourself lucky to still be married my friend.
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Awesome, Zebra!! A very happy Valentines Day to you and your REAL valentine! <3
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:24 AM
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Am I reading this in a mirror?? That fits me to a T. Awesome post!!!
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Old 02-14-2012, 07:35 AM
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Wow I was glued to your post! It reflects me completely!!! A stalker, now that's funny!
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Well said! That alkie girl can be quite seductive!
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I love it! What a great post! I hope that you and your wife have a beautiful Valentine's Day!
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Great post, very clever! Happy Valentines day to all.
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Your post brought tears to my eyes..So true, So true
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Old 02-14-2012, 08:10 PM
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(((Zebra)))-touching post, thanks!
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Old 02-14-2012, 08:29 PM
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Excellent post!

I remember when I first tried to tell my wife that I had a problem. It was very emotional for me...I was a mess...lots of tears. Her first reaction was that there must be another woman. I didn't think of alcohol as the other woman at the the time but I suppose the analogy is apt.
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