Closing a chapter/Opening a new door
Closing a chapter/Opening a new door
Well I finally did it. Put my house up for sale and have a buyer.
I'm scared and excited at the same time. I guess this is normal. My adult children are aware and seem to be taking it in stride. I have my moments when I start worrying about what's going to happen to them, but I quickly turn off the "future scenarios" and focus on what my next step will be. This is so, so different than what I am used to, but I'm into survival also!
I had an appt with a therapist (3 free visits via employee assistance) and she stated that I am very aware of what I need to do, but I need to let go of my old controlling love to do this. Everytime I would mention the fear of "what's going to happen to them", she would calmly state "they are all adults and they are capable of figuring it out".
I now realize the reason I never gave them the opportunity to face their own consequences was because it was painful for ME to see them in pain. I also realize that the pain of staying in this situation is much worse than selling my house and moving on.
I would love to hear from some of you who have done this. I know it's all going to work out eventually. I still have many lessons to be learned and I hope my journey lights the way for others .. as they have for me,
Huggs,
Hope
I'm scared and excited at the same time. I guess this is normal. My adult children are aware and seem to be taking it in stride. I have my moments when I start worrying about what's going to happen to them, but I quickly turn off the "future scenarios" and focus on what my next step will be. This is so, so different than what I am used to, but I'm into survival also!
I had an appt with a therapist (3 free visits via employee assistance) and she stated that I am very aware of what I need to do, but I need to let go of my old controlling love to do this. Everytime I would mention the fear of "what's going to happen to them", she would calmly state "they are all adults and they are capable of figuring it out".
I now realize the reason I never gave them the opportunity to face their own consequences was because it was painful for ME to see them in pain. I also realize that the pain of staying in this situation is much worse than selling my house and moving on.
I would love to hear from some of you who have done this. I know it's all going to work out eventually. I still have many lessons to be learned and I hope my journey lights the way for others .. as they have for me,
Huggs,
Hope
I have my moments when I start worrying about what's going to happen to them, but I quickly turn off the "future scenarios" and focus on what my next step will be. This is so, so different than what I am used to, but I'm into survival also!
Thank you for sharing this.
Hugs
Thanks Ann:
I needed encouragement today, because as it gets closer, I feel like a bear is breathing down my neck when I look around at all that needs packing, etc. But then, I stop, take a deep breath and know I will have more energy when it's called for.
Yesterday, I had to get out of my house because I was beginning to get depressed.
Just the change of scenery and visiting a friend changed my outlook. When I came back home, I started sinking again. It really cements the idea that in order for me to recover, I need to let go of this place and set my adult children free. I can't seem to do it and stay in this house...too many memories that haunt me right now.
Huggs,
Hope
I needed encouragement today, because as it gets closer, I feel like a bear is breathing down my neck when I look around at all that needs packing, etc. But then, I stop, take a deep breath and know I will have more energy when it's called for.
Yesterday, I had to get out of my house because I was beginning to get depressed.
Just the change of scenery and visiting a friend changed my outlook. When I came back home, I started sinking again. It really cements the idea that in order for me to recover, I need to let go of this place and set my adult children free. I can't seem to do it and stay in this house...too many memories that haunt me right now.
Huggs,
Hope
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