Buffalo66

What do I do about this?

My AH has been home, living here for over a year now. 16 months, to be exact.

I am still resentful, even though he is 100x better than before.

HE still has mood swings, so do i.

He still manipulates sometimes...Im sure I do too.

There is just an overall adversarial attitude. And we have talked about being on the same side, how we both want that, how thats the way it should be...

But I still have to fight.

And the main word that ALWAYS come up is ENTITLEMENT. On his part.

I try to be grateful, everyday that he is not out there rolling in urine or whtever, but, he can be so entitled, its hard to feel good about him sometimes.

The addicts...No one else has issues as hard, as deep or as overwhelming as theirs.

No ones needs are more pressing than theirs. He admits it very once in a while, but that doesnt stop the entitlement.

On the plus side, our son is thriving and happy.

Just a little rant... Hope you are all finding some peace somehow

choublak

Being an addict (recovering or otherwise) doesn't mean you get a free pass to do/say whatever.

How are you doing in your own recovery?

dollydo

This has been going on for a very long time, are you ever going to say...Enough and mean it, if not, then then accept him as he is...no reason to fight...he is not going to change.

blwninthewind

I am in the same boat.
I am still so angry
it's hard.
and we both see our programs differently and that is a problem and a source of arguements so we don't talk about our different programs.
He does his AA and I do my alanon.
I don't have any answers for you...
just wanted to let you know know you're not alone.