CagedBird

Im not sure when, but by the court date, I'm thinking either right before, or right after I left him.

The only reason I even know, is because this morning he called to ask me about the copier I left, because he needed to copy his temporary drivers license. I asked why he had one, and he said it was a long story.

Red flag!!!


I talked to my lawyer and googled defendants in our county.

Bingo!

Found the charge and court date.


Also, I talked to him in person today so my DS could see him.

He made amends and told me it was part of a program he's doing. I asked if it was AA, and he said yes.


He doesn't know that I know for now.

His court date is a week from Monday, so if he's going to do jail time, I guess I'll find out after that. I don't know how it works.

Guess we'll see.

dollydo

His problem...not yours...focus on you...get healthy and detach from his madness.

My best...Dolly

CagedBird

I'm not worried about it at all, mostly just wondering about how it will affect our divorce case and his visitation with our DS.

Overall, I think it will be a positive for DS and I.

dollydo

Yes...a BIG positive...he has sheet in his mess gear...

lillamy

Let your lawyer know and wrestle as much custody away from
Him as you possibly can.

I wish I had. I trusted my AXH's commitment to AA and sobriety. And I tear my heart out of my chest every time I have to send my children to court-ordered time with a drunk who can't even take care of himself.

And read NYDoglover's post about "early recovery (the first six months)" and protect your son.

Carol Star

My AXH did 6 months. He came out angry, jobless, still "used". Our marriage was doomed. It cost him alot. This disease isn't "playing."

NYCDoglvr

I suggest you let him go .... take the focus off his problems, they are none of your business really. I know it's hard, it's one step at a time. Can you get out, call someone,, go to a movie. Call someone you won't talk to obsessively about him. Take a break and let some sunshine in.