KelleyF

Ok so this is just a day in my life.


So, I was in a big meeting at work; I opened up a message & it had a picture of RABF with another girl ... It was just a pic of them in his car; but she had this big dopey smile. So of course I burst out with a loud OMG (while in this meeting full of people) and upon their inquiring what was wrong I had to tell them

I think it all started last summer when I had to go out of town for work. I felt bad leaving him; especially because he has trouble sleeping. (I seem to help with that)

So anyway, I asked a couple of friends to check in on him, well they had become his friends too...but I also introduced him to this new friend of mine not long before.......the girl in the picture.

So I found out this new girl had been over at his new place recently and caused quite an uproar. He kicked her out, but then she showed up at his office.

His friend, had at one point left her alone in RABF's office - to wait for him. He was really pissed when he came in and found her sitting at his desk; in his chair.

So long story short....he escorted her out, but she had no transportation, so he decided he had to give her a ride.....

Anyway, so that is when the pic was taken - by the secretary - who then sent it to me.

Now I’m sure you have your opinions on this; but let me tell you the rest of this mess...






RABF is staying with his friend (and with friend’s wife) ... well they have this housekeeper who also takes care of RABF’s place.
So I guess RABF had encountered her several times and he always thought she was acting weird around him.

One day he asked the wife if there was a problem or something. Well she didnt know, but said she would find out

So it turns out the housekeeper can hardly contain her laughter when RABF is around. Apparently she finds it quite amusing that he has this giant 4' stuffed bear in his bedroom. (I gave him the bear as a joke; so he could sleep with it while I was away)

So RABF friend’ finds all this out; and he decides to taunt him relentlessly over the bear. So RABF takes the bear out to the trash area (so rude).

But it doesn't end there. Friend’ rescues the bear and later drives it to their office and perches said bear (wearing a lovely flower) in RABF’s chair. He comes in later and there is the bear Aka...... the girl I introduced him to ....

Huge amounts of laughter break out and he escorts bear to his car trunk. (again rude)

But later secretary gets bear out of trunk and perches her in passenger seat (buckled in)

And then later, RABF goes out....huge laughter awaits again...as he discovers the bear waiting for him, And then RABF gives up and gets in car with the bear - and that's how the picture came to be.

(He did actually leave the bear in the passenger seat and drove her over to my place)

Unfortunately I didn't know all of this during my meeting; so I basically just explained I had just been sent a photo of my guy driving around town with a giant stuffed bear buckled into his passenger seat.

Some helpful soul suggested a blow up doll would be a better option.


Onwards
Kel

Heartbroken0608

I think you're trying to point out how "normal" and fun your life is with you ABF. I'm really happy for you that you can enjoy silliness like this with him. I know I could share a thousand funny stories like that about my son. When he's not using he's a joy to be around and is my best buddy. It was extremely difficult for me to separate the fun, loving son from the addict. When faced with a crisis I'd say, "even though he did X that's not really him" and then would give a list of his good qualities. It took me years to really believe that the "bad" was just as much who my son was as was the "good". I only wanted to acknowledge the boy I loved and snuggled with, made up silly stories with -- we'd lay on the couch and do our own little game where one of us would start a story and we'd take turns adding to it trying to make it as crazy as can be so the other would have a hard time finishing it. We always ended up laughing until we were on the verge of tears. This was our "thing". And when either of us were having a hard time the other could just say "want to make up a story" and elicit a giggle from the other. Even now, with my son in jail, to break the tension when he calls I'll say --or he'll say-- "want to make up a story".

My point is every single person on this forum could share a "day in their life" with their addict that was fun and loving and had nothing to do with addiction. That doesn't change the fact that addiction is a lifelong battle and you never know what tomorrow will bring... It's the nature of the disease. the last time I saw my son we had a great morning! He got up on his own and was even waiting for me at my car .. He was ready before I was to go to work. We had great conversation on the drive to work and I told numerous people at work how happy I was with him. Little did I know that 4 short hours later my world (his world) would be turned upside down.

I'm rambling, I'm sorry. I'm not trying to be a downer. I hope you have many more wonderful days with your abf and that he's one of the ones who can really beat this disease and that he doesn't relapse ever again.

Best wishes!

Heartbroken0608

Double post sorry

KelleyF

That is a sweet memory you share with your son. My prayers are with your family. I think we should sometimes share these things because they are part of us...we share the bad often; why not the good, or funny

I just decided to post this because I thought it was funny. I has sent it to a friend; and then another... And just thought I'd share it here
Don't really know why. I've told enough sad stuff... So thought I'd break it up with some happy.

BF would have had a year next month; If he hadn't relapsed at xmas.
He's working on his recovery steadily now; I'm hoping for the best
Gotta take good moments as they come

Hugs
Kel