30 days today
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 1,193
Good job!! 
I agree with the AA suggestion, or joining groups of people who have the same (non-drinking) hobbies. It's important to build a support system of people who are there for you and who support you in not drinking, or at least with whom you can interact and not feel constantly pressured to drink. Good luck. And congrats on 30 days!!!!! I know it feels great!
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I agree with the AA suggestion, or joining groups of people who have the same (non-drinking) hobbies. It's important to build a support system of people who are there for you and who support you in not drinking, or at least with whom you can interact and not feel constantly pressured to drink. Good luck. And congrats on 30 days!!!!! I know it feels great! 7
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Join Date: Jan 2009
Location: Toronto, Ontario
Posts: 4,150
Congratulations on 30 days.
The worst is over in my opinion.
I miss my social contacts from the bars too.
The desire to hang with them will be less and less as time goes by.
Keep up the good work.
The worst is over in my opinion.
I miss my social contacts from the bars too.
The desire to hang with them will be less and less as time goes by.
Keep up the good work.
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Join Date: Sep 2010
Location: IL now
Posts: 218
Congrats on one month! We're all very proud of you.
Now that you've gotten this far, it is time to start making recognizable change in your life. Find the things that you loved to do before your problem started.. This is your chance to be a kid again, and enjoy the simple things in life!
Now that you've gotten this far, it is time to start making recognizable change in your life. Find the things that you loved to do before your problem started.. This is your chance to be a kid again, and enjoy the simple things in life!
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 1,193
I (usually) don't miss them because I've realized they weren't true friends to me and I wasn't a true friend to them; we just bonded over our desire to drink a bunch of alcohol. And it was a lot of wasted time-- just sitting on a barstool talking about nothing important/nothing we would remember the next day, or making fools out of ourselves around each other, or trying to drown out our misery. I do worry about networking and business-socializing because a lot of that tends to revolve around drinking, but, I am hoping to become confident enough in my skin to be able to do it without drinking.
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Join Date: Oct 2011
Posts: 181
i mean I have a sales job where there is no guarantee I interact with someone on a given day, I go to a meeting a day, and go to the gym but I'm really lonely
Also
I'm going to Ireland in 6 weeks and 50% of the time I tell myself I'm not going to drink, and 50% of the time I tell myself I want to drink while I am there
Also
I'm going to Ireland in 6 weeks and 50% of the time I tell myself I'm not going to drink, and 50% of the time I tell myself I want to drink while I am there
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Join Date: Oct 2007
Location: Midwest
Posts: 2,619
I remember this last time I got clean and sober a little over a year ago and I remember I felt soooooooo lonely!! I am not joking when I tell you that now I have to be careful not to overcommit to my friends.
If you are doing a meeting a day chances are you will see repeat people at those meetings and more opportunity for to make connections!
Lily
If you are doing a meeting a day chances are you will see repeat people at those meetings and more opportunity for to make connections!
Lily
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Join Date: May 2009
Posts: 14,911
Congratulations on 30 days!
Keep your expectations in check. Just because you're sober, it doesn't mean that you are suddenly going to be Mr. Popularity. Making new friends and developing a different type of lifestyle takes time. However, I can attest to the fact that it is really worth it!
Keep your expectations in check. Just because you're sober, it doesn't mean that you are suddenly going to be Mr. Popularity. Making new friends and developing a different type of lifestyle takes time. However, I can attest to the fact that it is really worth it!
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Join Date: Jan 2012
Location: NH
Posts: 35
Congrats on your 30 days, I'm 60+ and feel like a million bucks, sorry about your drinking pals I know how you feel i lost all mine but don't worry there's friends to come give it time trust me I got some and I'm still doing fine. You'll have good days and bad but don't worry the good out plays the bad keep your head up.
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Join Date: May 2011
Location: Trudging the Road to Happy Destiny!
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7 no doubt well done. keep that rollin it just gets better and better. promise.
I am actually leaving right now to hang out with about 15 drunks that i would of never hung out with prior to getting sober . And I like them all.
Its a meeting of course and I love it everyday , hope you do as well.
Good love, Inda
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Join Date: Dec 2011
Posts: 156
Congratulations fellow December class member!
You know, I recently realized that I hadn't seen any of my social drinking friends with any more light than the hazy glare of bar neon, or talked to them in less than a shout.
Even though I don't have many close friends who don't drink my life doesnt feel any emptier without them.
Ireland may be challenge, but don't sacrifice your hard-earned health for another cruddy hangover!
You know, I recently realized that I hadn't seen any of my social drinking friends with any more light than the hazy glare of bar neon, or talked to them in less than a shout.
Even though I don't have many close friends who don't drink my life doesnt feel any emptier without them.
Ireland may be challenge, but don't sacrifice your hard-earned health for another cruddy hangover!
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