so much
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so much
my mom just passed away, my dad is a recovering alcoholic and i have a good friend who is addicted to pills (adderall etc.) I am trying to greive my mom not being here and always thinking about my dad if he will start drinking nad always thinking about my friend using pills and he has been really bad recently. I need help on how to deal with all of this at one time. it is very stressful and tonight someone todl me to help myself and make myself stronger but it is hard when i cant stop thinking. i wont even go over to my freinds house bc i cant stand seeing him the way he is when hes messed up. i pray to god everyday that nothing happens to him becuase i dont know what i would do if something bad happened to him.
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You must be in so much pain, jdk. It surely must seem overwhelming, and fear of losing anyone else after the loss of your mother....which is a terrible trauma....is very normal, very understandable. The intensity of grief is very hard to bear. And you have a friend in trouble with pills and a father you worry about. It is a heavy burden for you.
In Al-Anon we try to place our loved ones in God's hands...or the angels, or higher power....and ask that they be protected and helped according to divine wisdom, for we cannot know what is best for anyone else or what God's plan for anyone's life is.
I hope you know that your father and your friend are adults making their own choices everyday and what they choose will bring them lessons and outcomes you will never be responsible for. They have their own paths they will follow.
So please find friends to be with who love you, who bring you some happiness, who help you feel less lonely without your mother. You deserve to be nurtured and protected. You deserve a happy life, no matter what anyone else does with theirs.
Many blessings to you, I hope your pain eases a bit more each day. May you feel peace
and find comfort and love.
In Al-Anon we try to place our loved ones in God's hands...or the angels, or higher power....and ask that they be protected and helped according to divine wisdom, for we cannot know what is best for anyone else or what God's plan for anyone's life is.
I hope you know that your father and your friend are adults making their own choices everyday and what they choose will bring them lessons and outcomes you will never be responsible for. They have their own paths they will follow.
So please find friends to be with who love you, who bring you some happiness, who help you feel less lonely without your mother. You deserve to be nurtured and protected. You deserve a happy life, no matter what anyone else does with theirs.
Many blessings to you, I hope your pain eases a bit more each day. May you feel peace
and find comfort and love.
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Location: twilight zone,usa
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i am so sorry about your mom. i know this is really hard on you. do u live with your dad? you are so powerless over your dad & your friend & there is nothing u can do for either of them. you did not Cause it, u can not Control it, & u can not Cure it. try to find a meeting u can go to so u will have some one to talk to face to face with. call a friend or some one u r really close to. my heart goes out to you. we r here. keep coming back. hugs & prayers,
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