Ksquared87

Hey everybody, just figured at check in since I haven't posted in a while. Well I put myself in a terrible situation yesterday and am very surprised I made it out with my sobriety. Went to a Red Wings game with some friends yesterday. Before anybody chimes in, we had been planning this trip for a while now and it was for a friend of ours whom is back from the military.
It was tough but I remained sober through a hockey game plus about an extra 6 hours (combined before and after) of friends drinking around me. Idk I feel a bit uplifted about the situation. I feel like this was a big test of my sobriety and I passed it.
Anybody else put themselves in a dumb situation like this and come out on top? How did you feel afterwards?

Itchy

Seriously though, for one month sober you done good bud! Don't get over confident now. Keep posting.

sober4myboys

I hope I can have a similar story... Good for you!

Ksquared87

Thanks for keeping me humble Itchy. That's been a big problem in the past...

1undone

I agree with Itchy! Way to go! You can't hide from special friends forever and if they are true friends they will understand what's up!

Itchy

Watch my back too!

Freeport

You're going to find yourself in a lot of challenging situations as you travel a sober road. The holidays are crazy terrible for me, especially with big family functions going on. People, even close family members, can be so clueless about the effort we invest in sobriety.
My Mom, Dad, and wife all offered me a drink over the Christmas weekend! All three know that I don't drink anymore, and I don't think they're consciously trying to knock me off the wagon. They're just clueless, even though early in my sobriety -- approaching my 3-year mark -- I made it clear that I have given up alcohol. I'd like to think it's a testament to how well I've handled sobriety that they sometimes forget I've given up drinking.
Bottom line, we can't expect any help on a sober road. Ultimately, I decided, again, not to drink, and I'll continue to do so.

PaperDolls

To be honest .... this time around I haven't put myself into too many situations like that. I'm not saying I've not been around drinking but very rarely. I don't like to test myself like that anymore.

I did it in the past and usually ended up drunk.

Congrats on your sober time! Like has been said, don't get over-confident. For me, it's a killer.

ovrock

I wish I had your strength. Hopefully one day I could post about a month sober.... One day I guess...

PaperDolls

One day at a time ovrock.

Squizz

Whoa, whoa, whoa.

Going to a Red Wings game is not putting yourself in a "dumb situation".

Going to the Joe is an awesome experience. I went to a 2009 playoff game there sober, and went earlier this year.

In 2009, I stayed sober. This year I did not.

I chose to drink at the Joe this year.

Just keep one thing in mind: Nobody can force you to take a drink.

Therefore, I say, live your life. As long as you're not feeling tight, you should go out and enjoy yourself.

Granted, you're likely to encounter a whole truckload of drunks at the Joe, but that's their problem.

I'm glad you stayed sober, and I hope you had a good time.

Ksquared87

Ovrock, one day at a time buddy it'll come...
Freeport, same exact thing happened to me yesterday. I mean I told my friends that wasn't drinking but still it seemed like every once in a while it slipped from their memory and they offered me one. I understand becuz it's so what they are used to, it was just annoying as hell.
Squizz, I guess the game itself was probably the easiest part of the night it was just the stuff that normally comes with the game and that atmosphere that I put myself in. Stuff like going to my friends at 2 o'clock when they're all pre-gaming, going to the bar beforehand and taking the shuttle to the Joe, going back to the friends house and playing pool, cards and beer pong sober until 4 in the morning.
I am extremely happy that I made it through the night sober. I guess just looking back over the night I was just like WOW! Why did I put myself through all of this...?

Dee74

First off I'm glad you made it ok Ksquared.

I'm with PD tho...on previous occasions I was determined to road test my sobriety as soon as possible...I swam out too far too soon and I eventually paid the price.

Looking back I realise I wanted to be sober....but I didn't want to change anything else in my life.

My old life, my old friends, the places I hung out and the things I did were all alcohol sodden.

If I wanted to change my life, I needed to change my life.

I couldn't live my old drunks life and not be a drunk. I proved that several times.

This time, nothing is more important to me than my sobriety.

It's meant a lot of changes - some hard to contemplate - but they've been good changes.

I have a life now I love. It's been worth it

D

MentalLoop

In those situations, my victory has been coming at the latter part of the evening when I start to get tired. For a brief instant it becomes so clear.....I am going to sleep tonight with a clear head and I am going to wake up tomorrow feeling energetic and great. I actually for that moment feel egotystical and smug....like hey I am the smart one cause I ain't hurting and won't. This has been the best part....no impending regrets the next day.

Squizz

Well I didn't know all this. You should have just went home after the game. I mean, I can't talk. I've just come back recently from a relapse myself. But you certainly are setting yourself up for disaster putting yourself in those situations.

Trust me, I should know. That's why I've made a vow this time to stay out of bars, casinos, and drug houses. I've got no business being those places.

Regardless, you made it through alright THIS TIME. But I wouldn't suggest pushing your luck.

I thought I had this thing licked after seven months. But hanging around strip clubs, casinos, etc. long enough led me right back to square one.

I'm not saying don't have a good time, of course not. Just don't put yourself in harm's way.

gaffo

I've found, in my sixty days of sobriety, that once I get through the first couple of hours of a drinking event that the desire, if it was there at all in the first place, disappears. Drunks are lousy role models.

gravity

I wouldn't have tried this so early in sobriety but I've done exactly what you did many times (4 years sober). Football games, hockey games, concerts, bars..it's all good now. It is empowering in that I don't need alcohol to have fun with my friends (some of whom are drinkers). After all, the whole point of sobriety is to enjoy life.

I'm checking out the Maple Leafs vs Jets on New Years Eve then heading out to a club to ring in 2012. Bringing my sexy gf and meeting up with good friends. See what I mean? Sobriety rocks! It sure beats the hell out of those 3 day blackout/benders I used to go on.