It's all my fault. I am bad = I humored him, and he took it seriously
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It's all my fault. I am bad = I humored him, and he took it seriously
After 11 years of trying to stand up for myself -- and there was physical violence, betrayal and more -- I finally just smiled and said YOU'RE RIGHT.
You are soooo good, and I am bad.
You do everything right, and I am a psycho!
You are correct. I am wrong.
You are wonderful! I am horrible.
Everything is my fault. I am to blame for everything!
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He was relieved. He was so happy to hear he is good and I am bad. He said with conviction, yes you are to blame for everything! It is your fault, because I am good.
He went on to say, I want to be married to someone who sees how good I am. You ****** up everything, and it is your fault. You are bad. I am so good, but you won't see it.
You are so insane and crazy that you can't see what a good man I am. Everything is your fault. I want to be married to someone who sees how wonderful I am!
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Wow. He really believes that.
You are soooo good, and I am bad.
You do everything right, and I am a psycho!
You are correct. I am wrong.
You are wonderful! I am horrible.
Everything is my fault. I am to blame for everything!
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He was relieved. He was so happy to hear he is good and I am bad. He said with conviction, yes you are to blame for everything! It is your fault, because I am good.
He went on to say, I want to be married to someone who sees how good I am. You ****** up everything, and it is your fault. You are bad. I am so good, but you won't see it.
You are so insane and crazy that you can't see what a good man I am. Everything is your fault. I want to be married to someone who sees how wonderful I am!
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Wow. He really believes that.
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Amazing, isn't it?? I went from being on the "A-List" when I was all in to keep enabling my ABF, both by him, his mother and his brother. NOW, that I stand up for myself and voice what I deserve, I am on the s-list. LOL!
If you are sooooo bad, then why in the world doesn't he go get someone that deserves him. I bet he could meet this 'perfect mate' in, a.bar.
If you are sooooo bad, then why in the world doesn't he go get someone that deserves him. I bet he could meet this 'perfect mate' in, a.bar.
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He'd probably say, "Yeah, that's right you should divorce me and end my--WAIT A MINUTE!" And then his head would pop off with a bunch of smoke and loose springs. TAUTOLOGY TAUTOLOGY.
No, but seriously: get some help in place before you leave. Abusers often escalate things when a partner makes an attempt to leave.
What sort of domestic violence support places are in your town?
No, but seriously: get some help in place before you leave. Abusers often escalate things when a partner makes an attempt to leave.
What sort of domestic violence support places are in your town?
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My ex and I went to counseling, we went individually because she didn't want to go together (she was having an affair), she went to her first session and I asked her how it went she said:
"they told me I was fine and it was all your fault, so I don't need to go back"
I knew then that the sooner we split the better for both of us.
He sounds like such a peach, what could go wrong!
Best of luck to you,
Bill
"they told me I was fine and it was all your fault, so I don't need to go back"
I knew then that the sooner we split the better for both of us.
He sounds like such a peach, what could go wrong!
Best of luck to you,
Bill
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Originally Posted by SamanthaIam 
Oww. Bruises where he put his knee into my chest.
Leaving NOW.. Locked doors and canceled his phone. Called women's shelter. Called help line.
Leaving NOW.. Locked doors and canceled his phone. Called women's shelter. Called help line.
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DOCUMENT THE BRUISES!! - get GOOD documentation and photographs with the correct date and time stamps, and more than one real life witness to see them, too!
So sorry you have to live this experience!
Sending support!
CLMI
So sorry you have to live this experience!
Sending support!
CLMI
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Originally Posted by SamanthaIam
Leaving NOW.. Locked doors and canceled his phone. Called women's shelter. Called help line.
Sending you gentle (((hugs))), support and encouragement.
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