electricalguru

I have been in this alcohol prison three years now and want to get out but I am having a very hard time getting out. All the dreams, memories, the life I wonce had have seemed to vanished. I know what I need to do but I just can't let it go and accept things will never change unless I leave with my kids. It is so hard to accept. I want my wife back. How have you done it?

nodaybut2day

Perhaps this post should be moved to a different subforum?

wellnowwhat

Welcome to SR!

I am not clear. Are you struggling with alcohol? Or is your wife?

choublak

Based on the OP's previous posts, it appears his wife is the alcoholic...

nodaybut2day

Ah I see. Thanks for the clarification choublak.

Electricguru, I would strongly recommend getting your hands on a copy of Codependent No More, and finding some Al-Anon meetings to attend. You need IRL support to handle all this.

As for "how I did it", well, I left. I wasn't willing to live my life the way it was when I was married to an A. I also felt the need to protect my daughter from that insanity. That's just me though. Others have had different experiences.

Hope you stick around, read lots, and post more. SR is a great place to be.

MyBetterWorld

I did it. I found a place, signed a lease and about a week before I moved I told my A that I was leaving. We were in a lease together, which had discussed with the landlord. She accepted 2 additional months rent from me and let me out. It was expensive, paying the 2 months there and the deposit and rent on the new place, but I scrimped and saved and did it. It definitely took some planning. I did try to help my A, for years......rehabs, enabling, more rehabs. I finally couldn't take it anymore. So my kids and I moved out and moved on. It's not an easy thing, but if it means your sanity, and your kids' well being, then you should go for it. Good luck. Keep reading and posting, and find the strength to do what you need to do.
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