jessiec

Good news: I stuck to a boundary I established.
Bad news: I had an occasion to use said boundary.

ABF is white-knuckling right now. Admits he has a
problem and while he has attended a few isolated
AA meetings, he has not committed.

Tonight we went to a friend's party where drinking would be involved. Heb brought soft drinks and non-alcoholic beer. I can't prove that he had alcohol at the party. But there were several opportunities. By the end of the night, he was acting strange, being quite loud, annoying, etc and while I couldn't prove it, I suspect he had been sneaking alcohol.

I told him earlier this week of my boundary: I don't want to be around him when he has been drinking. So when we got to his house, I told him I was leaving and I came home. No yelling, nagging, etc. Just removing myself from the situation.

I feel good about that!

Willybluedog

Great job, very proud of you for setting a boundary and sticking to it!

Keep up the good work,

Bill

Ladybug0130

In retrospect, I realize anytime I suspected that my ex AH was drinking that he actually was.

Good for you for sticking to a boundary! It's hard to go to parties or have any kind of life, really, when you are constantly worrying about a loved ones alchohol intake.

jessiec

Ladybug, ain't that the "troof?" I used to think I was paranoid. Now I just know I have an ABF. And I kinda wish I was just paranoid!