Advice for recovering alcoholic
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Advice for recovering alcoholic
My boyfriend of 3 and half years has been sober from acholol for 5 years. He is amazing boyfriend and doesn't seem like he really has a problem not drinking. We never fight about anything apecct sex. He wants it every night and if we dont do it he gets really pissed. Almost like he feels like have betrayed him. Is this normal, has gotten addicted to sex. How doni make him understand?
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It may or may not have anything to do with previous problems with alcohol.
A guy who demands sex every night is a jerk. That's really all there is to it. You could go looking for underlying reasons--misogyny, lack of empathy, secret consumption of viagra--but it's still just a guy being a jerk.
A guy who demands sex every night is a jerk. That's really all there is to it. You could go looking for underlying reasons--misogyny, lack of empathy, secret consumption of viagra--but it's still just a guy being a jerk.
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Welcome to SR!
I will not be able to help you determine if your boyfriend's sexual appetite is related to his alcohol addiction.
I can help you, hopefully, see that your only issue in this relationship is over his demands for daily sex. The conflict arrises when you do not meet his demands.
Yet, it is your body, your time, your energy that he is demanding access to, right?
Does his behavior make you feel resepected, appreciated, and loved as a partner in life?
My guess is No, it does not leave you feeling respected, appreciated and loved as an equal partner in life. Therefore, it is unacceptable to you - not matter what the source of his behavior. His behavior is unacceptable to you.
It is your body, your time, your energy and you deserve to be treated with respect and appreciation by your life partner.
I hope you will find the support and encouragement you need to live a life that meets your needs.
I will not be able to help you determine if your boyfriend's sexual appetite is related to his alcohol addiction.
I can help you, hopefully, see that your only issue in this relationship is over his demands for daily sex. The conflict arrises when you do not meet his demands.
Yet, it is your body, your time, your energy that he is demanding access to, right?
Does his behavior make you feel resepected, appreciated, and loved as a partner in life?
My guess is No, it does not leave you feeling respected, appreciated and loved as an equal partner in life. Therefore, it is unacceptable to you - not matter what the source of his behavior. His behavior is unacceptable to you.
It is your body, your time, your energy and you deserve to be treated with respect and appreciation by your life partner.
I hope you will find the support and encouragement you need to live a life that meets your needs.
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