Freedom: The good things being without them
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Freedom: The good things being without them
Sorry to have two threads going at once... Just got off the phone with a woman I really respect, who recently left her fiance. She asked me to focus on and do the things I couldn't before... No matter how small...
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My list:
1. Can take calls anytime from friends, night, dinner, whenever
2. Can spend holidays with my family
3. Can watch TV show without switching to sports
4. Knowing rent a bills with be paid (by me, tough right now, but still)
5. Hanging out with my girls, friday and saturday, without suspicions of cheating
6. can be there for others, without being guilted for neglecting
7. Can finally get white sheets!! god I hate our room. Black red and blue? Blegh
8. Time for prayer and meditation
9. Can have male friends (I really miss some of them)
10. Can feel unashamed
11. Can feel proud when people ask me how i'm doing, instead of lying
12. go to more meetings!!
13. Can begin to heal
14. Can change my outfits as many times as I want without being annoying
15. Can shop online and get packages in the mail without hiding them or feeling guilty for spending money on myself.
16. Can work late without guilt and repercussions.
And when the addict is using, that list gets 10x longer. not having to hide keys and money, cry, lose sleep... It's barely living...
WOW... that alot.. this forum has helped me so much, you all are amazing, the lights of my recovery right now.
Please join in!
My list:
1. Can take calls anytime from friends, night, dinner, whenever
2. Can spend holidays with my family
3. Can watch TV show without switching to sports
4. Knowing rent a bills with be paid (by me, tough right now, but still)
5. Hanging out with my girls, friday and saturday, without suspicions of cheating
6. can be there for others, without being guilted for neglecting
7. Can finally get white sheets!! god I hate our room. Black red and blue? Blegh
8. Time for prayer and meditation
9. Can have male friends (I really miss some of them)
10. Can feel unashamed
11. Can feel proud when people ask me how i'm doing, instead of lying
12. go to more meetings!!
13. Can begin to heal
14. Can change my outfits as many times as I want without being annoying
15. Can shop online and get packages in the mail without hiding them or feeling guilty for spending money on myself.
16. Can work late without guilt and repercussions.
And when the addict is using, that list gets 10x longer. not having to hide keys and money, cry, lose sleep... It's barely living...
WOW... that alot.. this forum has helped me so much, you all are amazing, the lights of my recovery right now.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: Minneapolis
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yes. yes. yes.
I have a rare Saturday night free, and he's not here, and it's nasty snowy weather out there and an art opening date got cancelled for that...
but I don't have anything to prove. I turned on the lamps, lit some candles, play some music, do some laundry and make some of my groovy crafty bits that I sell over the holidays.
I know the social calendar will slowly pick up. I know I am not alone...
I hope the same for you. I spoke with another friend in our situation. She had some bitterness bubbling up. Anger, sadness, wonder...all will ebb and flow. Sometimes I have to remember that after all is said and done, after we admit, accept, and let go (which are all for the best obviously) I am still in the middle of a break up on a Saturday night, and well...
and that is ok.
all is well.
higher power is love.
hugs to you and your freedom of spirit, whether it soars, or sits quietly, or sheds a tear.
all is well when you have done your best to do what is best.
I have a rare Saturday night free, and he's not here, and it's nasty snowy weather out there and an art opening date got cancelled for that...
but I don't have anything to prove. I turned on the lamps, lit some candles, play some music, do some laundry and make some of my groovy crafty bits that I sell over the holidays.
I know the social calendar will slowly pick up. I know I am not alone...
I hope the same for you. I spoke with another friend in our situation. She had some bitterness bubbling up. Anger, sadness, wonder...all will ebb and flow. Sometimes I have to remember that after all is said and done, after we admit, accept, and let go (which are all for the best obviously) I am still in the middle of a break up on a Saturday night, and well...
and that is ok.
all is well.
higher power is love.
hugs to you and your freedom of spirit, whether it soars, or sits quietly, or sheds a tear.
all is well when you have done your best to do what is best.
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Join Date: Nov 2011
Location: ann arbor, mi
Posts: 18
Yes I made a list. I add to it all the time and read it over and over. We deserve a healthy fun kind happy intelligent partner. :P
I won't miss loving someone who takes me for granted.
I won't miss miss the rollercoaster hoe is. Anger, to sorrow to pity to anger to sorrow...
I won't miss worrying about the future with despair...
Freedom is nice. There is beauty in life if we care to look.
I won't miss loving someone who takes me for granted.
I won't miss miss the rollercoaster hoe is. Anger, to sorrow to pity to anger to sorrow...
I won't miss worrying about the future with despair...
Freedom is nice. There is beauty in life if we care to look.
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