OwlFeathers

Hi. I am new to this site. I have a daughter in her early 20s, she has been addicted to oxys for about 4 1/2 yr. She is currently in jail again, having been arrested a few days ago. I haven't had contact with her yet. I have been through the emotional ups and downs the past years, and am calmer now. I want to take the right positive steps now at this moment. My biggest question right now seems simple enough. Do I put money in her commissary at jail? Or do I not? I want to write her and show my love and support... and not sure if putting money in for her is the right choice, or not. I know that seems silly maybe. Any advice is appreciated. Thanks. ~Owl

Anna

Hi and Welcome,

I'm sorry for your situation.

I wonder if you have considered NarAnon for support for yourself? I hope you can find some peace in your life.

I have no answer about the money issue.

Dee74

Hi OwlSong

I don't know anything about the money issue either, I'm afraid.

I hope you'll also check out our Family and Friends forums too
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...stance-abusers

D

Gerbosko

Are they giving her an option for treatment?

I'm not sure how long she's in for but maybe the money you want to put in her commissary should be saved and used for a rehab program. However, it does need to be her decision if she wants to recover or not and forcing her would probably lead to the addiction becoming worse (if she goes back to them after jail). I guess if I was a parent, I would use carefully chosen words to try to get them to accept rehab because it's going to be a whole new person once they're cured. If she continues using after jail, it can have far worse consequences